Well then,

I have an interloper in my home. My son’s girlfriend is living here. Am I happy about that? No, I am not. Why? Well, she is quite sneaky. She takes things that do not belong to her. Case in point, batteries.

 

Last night I happened downstairs for some reason or another, and spotted T move past the door in the other room. I asked her what she was doing. She answered that she was fixing her flashlight, that she had dropped it out of her pocket. Well then. I thought nothing of it. This morning though I could not get my Roku television remote to work for my television in the daycare. I thought perhaps the batteries had gone dead, so I opened the back of it. NO batteries. What the actual hell? This is not the first time she has taken the batteries, and I have gone to get them back. Why is a grown woman carrying a flashlight in a house anyway? I guess so she can go outside and smoke at night while we are asleep. Nonetheless, you don’t take the batteries out of a remote that is used every single day. Thankfully, I have the Roku app on my phone, and was able to use that. So now, I will need to have a conversation that I shouldn’t even have to have. If it does not belong to you, do not take it. Seriously now? If she denies taking them, I swear I will hit the ceiling. I hate a liar, and I hate a thief. Even if it is something small, like triple a batteries. If you didn’t bring it into the house, then it is not yours. So simple.

 

This begs the question, who raised this child? Everything that is in a house that you are being allowed to live in is not up for your disposal. Oh, I remember now, she basically had zero raising. her mom is a not so pleasant excuse for a mom. Yes, I just said that. Why do you ask? Well because I am sick to death of these sorry excuses for a mother releasing these idiots into society. This is the third girl that my son has dated who came from a broken home, and whose mothers were just classless pieces of crap. They release their daughters into the world at sixteen because they are tired of dealing with them. None of their mothers ever worked, instead relying on a man to keep them up. Now I am not saying that every woman that does not work is a piece of crap. Just some of them. The ones in my immediate area. They teach their daughters to use their bodies to make a living. To live off of the generosity of a man. Give them what they want, so you can get what you need. When they stop giving, you move on to the next one.

 

Her mother is currently married, and living with another man. She also has another man she runs to when things don’t go her way. What kind of an example is she setting for her three daughters? CB’s girlfriend has 3 children by 2 different men. One of them is my granddaughter, and the reason she is even allowed to live in my house. I’ve tried to be pleasant, but my patience for all the bullshit is growing thin. I work every single day to earn what I need to earn to pay the bills. She is not working, and has really never held a job for more than a couple of months. Her dad died a few years ago in a car accident, and trust me people, he was the only one who ever provided stability for this girl. It never ceases to amaze me that these kinds of people even exist. It is an entirely different class of people. I never even thought I would encounter such people, much less have one living with me.

 

This girl has zero education, not even a high school diploma. I tried to get her involved in classes that would get at least get her a GED. Then perhaps she could go to a trade school for something or another. I tried to lead her in that direction, but no, she is perfectly happy laying on her ass while I work. Now I understand my responsibility in this situation. I helped to make this situation. I allowed my son to bring this woman into my home because “She has nowhere else to go!”  I am such a sucker for a poor pitiful little girl with no family. Now I know better. Her family is a bunch of leeches, and she is leech number one. My poor granddaughter. Her role model is a leech. Dear God if it is the last thing I do, I will lift this child out of this situation. My son has to get it together, and move out of my home. They both need to get a grip on life. I need my home back. I need people to be independent, and make their own way. I don’t need to be responsible for all of these people. Game over.

 

Rant over! I do feel a little better.

 

Have a blessed day people. I hope your day started out better than mine did.

 

peace :/ shemelts

10 thoughts on “Well then,”

  1. Myself? I could never live in someone else’s house without at least earning my stay as in offering to cook or clean, doing laundry….something! And then to “take” something that isn’t even mine, be it those batteries or even a slice of gum?!? Never! Did she really think you wouldn’t notice batteries are missing from a remote you use everyday? What gall!

    You will have to set down some kind of rules that need to be followed, and to vacate asap!

    To make a long story short, I know a lady that allowed her son, his wife, their 3 children, 2 dogs and 1 cat to move in with her & her husband because their son lost his job. Almost 2 years later, they are still there, the son still unemployed, the house in shambles from the animals & grands. Her sanity about gone, her husband working longer hours, probably to get away from the bedlam at home and no closer to the son and his family moving. Move why? They have it made. They aren’t being forced to leave b/c of the grandkids, but the lady has to do EVERYTHING! No help from the son & DIL, down to having to clean out the litterbox because they don’t.

    The point I’m making….don’t let their staying there, get to that point as this family are! Its a nightmare as they now have bedbugs and the lady’s beautiful home now looks like a shack. She and hubby are miserable but their hands are tied.

    Don’t let this happen to you, please.

    1. About the same story here. When they were pregnant, we hated to have them living on the street. So we were stupid, and allowed them to move in with the promise that they would find an apartment immediately. Well the baby is 7 months old, and here we sit. No pets, but the stealing has got to stop. Did I mention someone took 3 rings from my jewelry box recently. 3 sentimental rings too. I’m so upset…mostly at myself. Gosh! 🙁

      1. Oh no! If the “someone” can take 3 rings and think that you haven’t noticed….something is seriously wrong here. You may have to start locking up your valuables and keepsakes because one day they may all be there, and gone the next. This is terrible, ugh. I’m so sorry you are going through this. 🙁

  2. He reads. He nods. Doesn’t smile. not this time

    glad you are here. writing. is what it is.

    trust and Love and Rings of Jupiter tough.

    going there now. follow me. lose some. gain some.

    peace of mind and happiness is the goal.

    almost end of year. glad you are here. Sharing.

  3. Aside from the lack of spicy language, you are sounding more like me all the time! It does my heart good! I’ve been there and done that with the squatter spawn. The only way to end it is to lay down a deadline right now. Out in 3 months or whatever you choose as the line that is not to be crossed. “I love you but I’m done. Get out.” It actually works! I’d be happy to lend you a boot if you like. You don’t deserve this. Say so. Tell them to have some pride and being leeches. Never mind, I’ll be right over! 🙂

  4. I am a fossil (64) I cannot imagine allowing my son to bring his girlfriend to live with me I guess things have changed. I would have a conversation with my son- Hey buy your girlfriend some batteries and tell her to get a freaking job. LOL that’s the crusty me.
    Respect is learned and sometimes the people we are to respect are not deserving of that respect I am guessing she has not had good role models. It seems as though it’s a lost art that of being a responsible adult. Hey look at the college professors out there holy cow! Where are the John Waynes these days .. hahahaha there I go again sounding old.

  5. “Life isn’t about waiting for the winds to change. It’s about learning to adjust your sails.” This situation is extremely challenging because it involves a child. When circumstances can’t be changed with ease, one must do all they can to protect themselves. Your son’s girlfriend has shown you who she is. Anything, in your home, of monetary or sentimental value should be immediately placed under lock and key.

  6. It’s been my experience that the words “get out” are not going to be sufficient for this chick. She is a user of people. Start the process to evict her. Yes, it may cost you small claims court fees (or you may qualify as indigent under the eyes of the law) but get to it legally. There are deadlines and time frames in place that if you hold off until they don’t comply, it could be another 6 months before you get any relief. I’ve seen it at least 100 times in my job. And yes, like Colorado Dreaming said… lock up EVERYTHING of value in lock boxes or safe deposit boxes because if she has to go, she is going to be looking to take everything of value she can get her hands on. Sorry… but that’s my two cents worth.

  7. I got anxiety just reading this.
    NO WAY!
    You are a tough cookie with a big heart. DON’T let them take advantage of that. Well….her…don’t let her behave that way in your house.
    Have a family meeting. Bring out the flip chart and calendar and set deadlines and goals.
    I know you may fear your going to chase your son away with your beautiful grand baby. But you are doing this for them to learn how to live life like responsible adults with a family.
    And you are doing this for your sanity. (and ours 😉 )

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