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How do you like the WordPress featured image of a thoughts.com design from 2012. Going 8 years back on that one.

Thoughts.com is full of interesting stories and we organize them by topic and tag so you can search and find the information or product you need.

This is different that blogging on my domain which is what I’m used to. I kind of like it.

I’d gotten so use to Elementor web page builder WordPress plugin recently. Before that I had to get used to the new WordPress blocks system before that. I don’t know why I don’t see the new blocks here on wordpress.com. It feels easier to blog.

Maybe that’s the point huh?

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Hello Thoughts!

Hello everyone and welcome to thoughts.com. Or welcome back!

I first started this website in 2007 as one of the web’s early social networking sites. Blogging has always been at the heart of the thoughts community so its only natural that it come back to life with all the new amazing WordPress technology we have today.

Hope to see some old faces and meet some new ones too!

Thanks for stopping 🙂

FutureBen00

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Cherished Ones

To the precious ones of whom my heart so cherishes. How I yearn to be counted as one you behold as priceless, and purely loved without shadow of turning, unconsumed by expectations laid out by ideas that have accompanied, during the journey thus far. As those whose input influence the outlook of your perception, to your inner thoughts adding perspectives, yielding your ever changing views, or opinions, of how things are, or ought to appear. Appearance is only the cover for that present moment. Yet ever so much more than before does the saying, “don’t judge a book by its cover”, ring so true. To my understanding, each one has with it a deeply intricate, inner woven web, so complex, each detail minutely make up the depth of the individual to the very core. Why ourselves within or on the outside looking in are unaware of the true rhyme or reason for the path, paths, trials, swamps, cliffs, or slopes…..one continues on, repeatedly, or just stranded, and stagnat. Whatever, or whichever it may be, this journey a lesson for some, to gain. If I could be brave, my eyes will be wide open, seeking out the truth, to behold for the next step….the desire to be right within, as well as without, wishing only to capture that which is to gain,  along with it comes ideas, expectations, approval, disapproval, of those who Ive deemed worthy to decide weather Im on it! (sort of speak), or missing the mark…..

How so, are we to remain whole within as to continue endeavoring on undivided by the placement of whats what? At the same, discovering the real, of the whom and the why of my existance, without the essence of being, becoming displaced by scattered means to which is preference given to trudge true. When in the midst at a crossroad here lies a choice looking back at these will cause a cringe, dismissal, or hopefully serenity. Either way its a wrap, no re~dos. I being my own most hard taskmaster can spend time in this realm with regrets and perhaps self loathing but to no fruition.

How can one balance the push and the pull we have packed thus far? Which to consider? The weight at times and for some can be too much to bear, Then in lies   collapse……why bother, throw in the towel! I must heed to the know the task each one carries, being of such precise detail to every nook and cranny, of what makes up each and every most perfectly, intricate, deeply, passionate, unique individual, person, & soul. All wrapped up seemingly so ordinary, and simple, just another of many. Yet oh so not simplistic, no, no, actually an entire eco system. A world with its custom agenda, unlike any other, functioning, or malfunctioning, according to whom it may concern, to continue on in however our season is playing out at present, for the moment.

We are extravagant, acutely amazing human beings, we are each making up a part of the whole, of this universe, with more to ourselves than comprehensible, a state of unknowingkst……A place, yet recognized of, awe….struck…….

Written by, Dove

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Enroute to life

If I were to explain life, I couldn’t come up with a better explanation than a journey in a motor vehicle.

With every surpassing instant we advance towards our destination leaving behind everything to give way to better alternatives. Eventhough, at times, we’d wish certain things to stay as they were, there are times when we fancy the idea of those circumstances to by pass without any further prolongation. Yet, it is a harsh truth that all of this is beyond our control and we are rendered completely powerless.

This vulnerable state, however, is an excellent reminder that everything has its own provided time limit and we have zero control over what comes and goes. We are mere travellers, travelling the road of our destiny that leads us to our ultimate destination.

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Spencer

Spencer

When I met Spence, I was, undeniably, in the worst place in my life – toxic, emotionally abusive, long term relationship with a very selfish man child.

As well as self-harming, drinking to block out the emotional pain, and oh so very depressed.

It’s only now I can see just how bad of a place I was in, it’s quite frightening actually.

Spencer, however, was quite literally my knight in shining armour. Saved me from myself, and while I can’t give him full credit for my newly found life changing motivation for self-improvement, I don’t know where I would be without his support.

Spencer is a married, middle aged, ex semi-pro footballer, with a wonderful caring nature, and a masters degree in manipulation. We clicked immediately, with a comforting sense of familiarity.

Over the years and after my journey back from the dark side our friendship has grown closer, more intense. I thought it was normal to be close to someone who you click so well with.

I noticed the butterflies in my stomach when he greeted me, the excitement and the fanny flutters (Oh, come on, we all know what they are!) but I pushed it aside, knowing it’s wrong, and quite frankly assuming he didn’t feel the same. I was wrong, I wasn’t the only one feeling the intensity of our connection.

Our relationship is built on a solid friendship foundation, and a lot of love. It’s a beautiful trauma, a complex ball of raw emotions and confusion.

The love I feel for Spence is unlike anything I have ever felt before…..

But, enough with the mushy stuff, love isn’t a bed of roses, love is pain, love is acceptance of the other – whatever that may be.

Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is a war; love is a growing up.

You cannot control your feelings, you cannot control who you love, but you can control your actions, and that is exactly what we try and do. I can appreciate the subject of affairs with married partners is a touchy one but I blog to be honest, not everyone knows the insights to what looks like the perfect marriage.

Spencer’s marriage to the outside world, even to me, looks like the stuff dreams are made of…. I’ve learnt that not everything is always as it seems, and that people love to put a on a mask.

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One mistake at a time…


Single, Thirty-Nothing, London Based, Dynamic Girl…. Who makes quite possibly the worst decisions in life, falls for the wrong guys and is spectacular at royally fucking up – One mistake at a time!

There are two men in my life, they are good guys, neither know what they want relationship wise, and so begins ‘The Game….’ – Yeah, I should walk away, but that would be the easy option – one I rarely take, and then complain about life being unfair (Ha!) You’ll probably come to hear a lot about these wonderfully irritating pains in my ass.

The rest of my time is taken up with work – in the process of a creative career change! Art – I love to draw, Food – I love a good menu 😉

I basically spend a lot of time trying to be fit & healthy……. I’ll hit the gym, or go for a run, vow to only eat freshly cooked healthy meals & quit alcohol…… by the time the weekend rolls around, you can almost certainly find me on my sofa in my sweatpants, drinking wine, ordering Chinese takeaway and binge watching some tragic American high school based series on Netflix telling myself ‘I’ll get up early and hit the gym’ only to wake up at 9,30am with zero intention of exerting myself 😀

Here’s a few things about me that I don’t always like to admit;

  • I’m the worlds worst worrier – can almost guarantee I am already reacting to something that probably won’t happen.
  • I make questionable life choices – try not to judge! I am the queen of bad decisions!
  • Little things can irritate the shit out of me – there will be rants!
  • I procrastinate way too much – Seriously, it’s a miracle anything gets done, it’s taken me at least 4 hours to create and write this blog.
  • I love and care too deeply for the wrong people – I’m working on it 😉
  • If it’s bad for me, you can be sure I will want it – Men, food, wine!
  • My friends would describe me as loyal, generous, no where near as innocent as I look – and feisty. I might be short but I will stand up for myself – even though I’m a pushover!

Overall life is quite comical. If you like having a laugh, join me in trying to figure this all out!

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Relate to Understand

I’d say everything is fine and there’s nothing to worry about, but deep down we all know that’s not the case. Some people can just walk away, forget it even happened. Me… I’m not that type of person. Here I am months later and I still feel the same way. Nothing’s changed , and the pain is still there. Every once in a while I’ll start to cry, some days are harder than others. 

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Celebrating 5 in 1 with Cayman’s Constitution

It has been nine years since the Cayman Islands voted to adopt their modernized constitution. After an extensive period of discussion and negotiations, and the fist local Referendum, the new Cayman Islands Constitution was approved by Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II Privy Council on June 10, 2009 and came into force on November 6, 2009.

So, what’s in the Constitution you may ask?

THE CONSTITUTION OF THE CAYMAN ISLANDS

The people of the Cayman Islands, recalling the events that have shaped their history and made them what they are, and acknowledging their distinct history, culture and Christian heritage and its enduring influence and contribution in shaping the spiritual, moral and social values that have guided their development and brought peace, prosperity and stability to those islands, through the vision, forbearance, and leadership of their people, who are loyal to Her Majesty the Queen;
Affirm their intention to be—

• A God-fearing country based on traditional Christian values, tolerant of other religions and beliefs.

• A country with open, responsible and accountable government, that includes a working partnership with the private sector and continuing beneficial ties with the United Kingdom.

• A country in which religion finds its expression in moral living and social justice.

• A caring community based on mutual respect for all individuals and their basic human rights.

• A country committed to the democratic values of human dignity, equality and freedom.

• A community that practices honest and open dialogue to ensure mutual understanding and social harmony.

• A safe, secure and law-abiding community.

• A country that is free from crime and drug abuse.

• A country with an education system that identifies and develops on a continuing basis the abilities of each person, allowing them to reach their full potential and productivity.

• A community that encourages and prepares young people to assume leadership roles.

• A country that provides a comprehensive healthcare system.

• A community protective of traditional Caymanian heritage and the family unit.

• A country that honors the sacrifice of its seafaring men who left the shores of the Islands to enhance the quality of life of their people, and in doing so established themselves amongst the finest within the global maritime community of that time and through their remittances, endeavors and experiences built the foundations of the Cayman Islands’ modern economy.

• A country that honors and acknowledges the important contribution of Caymanian women who during the absence of the seafaring men of the Islands managed the affairs of their homes, businesses and communities and passed on the values and traditions of the Islands’ people.

• A country with a vibrant diversified economy, which provides full employment.

• A country that makes optimal use of modern technology.

• A country that manages growth and maintains prosperity, while protecting its social and natural environment.

• A country that respects, protects and defends its environment and natural resources as the basis of its existence.

• A country that fosters the highest standards of integrity in the dealings of the private and public sectors.

• A country with an immigration system that protects Caymanians, gives security to long-term residents and welcomes legitimate visitors and workers.

• A country that plays its full part in the region and in the international community.
Now, therefore, the following provisions shall have effect as the Constitution of the Cayman Islands.

For more information on the Cayman Islands existing laws, Constitution and Bill of Rights, Freedoms and Responsibility, visit: www.legislation.gov.uk/uksi/2009/1379/contents/made

 

Even though Monday’s (July 2nd 2018) Constitution Day is uniquely Caymanian, in such a multi-cultural territory as ours- were residents hail from all over the world- our holiday coincides very closely with many other countries like America’s Independence Day, Canada Day, St. Maarten Emancipation and Bahamas Independence Day.

One of the leading members of American history, Benjamin Franklin who was also an author and scientist, inventor and diplomat was deeply active in public affairs.

Apparently, he had little formal education and he still managed to start a successful printing business in Philadelphia and grew wealthy. He helped launch a lending library, hospital and college, and garnered acclaim for his experiments with electricity, among other projects.

During the American Revolution, he served in the Second Continental Congress and helped draft the Declaration of Independence in 1776. From 1776 until the present day, July 4th has been celebrated as the birth of American independence!

Another wonderful place to explore and know about is Canada.

Canada’s national holiday is celebrated on July 1. If it falls on a Sunday, it is moved to July 2, except in Nova Scotia and in Newfoundland and Labrador. All provincial governments observe this day. Many organizations, businesses and stores are closed, although some book stores, pharmacies and gas stations may be open. Post offices are closed. As Canada Day falls in the Canadian summer holiday period, all schools are closed.

Canadians across the country and around the world show their pride in their history, culture and achievements. It’s been a day of celebration, where many festivities are held across the country, since 1868.

Also, each year, through the Canada Day Challenge, young people aged 8 to 18 are invited to express their creativity through arts on what Canada means to them.

On July 1, 1867, Canada became a self-governing dominion of Great Britain and a federation of four provinces: Nova Scotia; New Brunswick; Ontario; and Quebec. The anniversary of this date was called Dominion Day until 1982. Since 1983, July 1 has been officially known as Canada Day.

Now right here within the beautiful Caribbean Sea we can explore the lovely Island of St. Maarten.

St. Maarten Emancipation Day is annually observed on July 1. This holiday celebrates the day, when the Netherlands abolished slavery on the island in 1863.

The island of St Maarten is administered by France (the major part) and the Netherlands.
Here’s a little history; the first border on the island was set by the Treaty of Concorida in 1648, however, during the next two centuries the border was changed sixteen times.

St Maarten was a good place for cultivation of cotton, tobacco and sugar cane, that led to the lack of working labor and the beginning of the era of slavery.
France and the Netherlands imported a massive number of slaves to work on the plantations.

Slaves were subjected to cruel treatment, that is why they often staged rebellions. Due to the overwhelming number of the slaves, the rebellions were impossible to ignore. France abolished slavery on its part of the island in 1848. The Dutch followed the suit 15 years later and abolishment took place on July 1, 1863.

Abolishment of slavery is a very important event in the history of St Maarten.
Celebration of Emancipation Day usually begins with a church service, followed by the ceremony of wreath laying to the monuments of the fighters for freedom.

Let’s not forget the fabulous countries of the Bahamas. It is officially called the Commonwealth of the Bahamas and consist of more than 700 islands. Wow!

Bahamas Independence Day is on the 10th July. This holiday commemorates the day when The Bahamas became an independent Commonwealth realm in 1973, retaining the British Monarch, then and currently Queen Elizabeth II, as its Head Of State.

The Bahamas is one of the richest countries in the Americas (following the United States and Canada), with an economy based on Tourism and Finance.

For more information visit: https://www.bahamas.com/event/bahamas-independence-day-holiday

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Midnight Musings: Taming the Beast

 

It can be difficult when you feel old habits creeping up on you. An old version of yourself that’s slowly fading to the recesses of your consciousness, kicking and screaming that it’s time to shine has come to an end. A new era has begun, an era of rational thinking, regardless of the emotional backup that somehow manages to pop my lid more often than not, and with noone in particular being the trigger. Everyone and anyone can be a victim to my rage.

Repression is a bitch. Go enough years holding shit in, you’re bound to explode eventually and sadly is usually on the last person who’s to blame. In fact, the person who triggers those episodes are usually the people that sincerely have my best wishes at heart. Usually my family, or my boyfriend. Of late, it’s mostly the boyfriend who catches the brunt of my mood swings, poor thing. It’s like this evil demon in my chest that breaks loose every time it finds the chance, usually just after I’ve woken up. What makes it even more frustrating is that those other moments where I wake up without the demon….I’m on the polar opposite end of the spectrum… bouncy, chipper, and I’ll talk about whatever comes to my mind. To the point where even other morning people are like, WOAH slow down tiger. That’s putting it nicely… my boyfriend and my brother take a similar approach that is, nodding and “mhmm”-ing. Which is kind of fucked up because I know there are moments that they want to tell me to shut the hell up…too much too early… but they don’t say it because my obnoxious bubbliness is usually better than the alternative.

From my side, it’s gotten to the point that when I go to sleep at night, it’s a coin toss what mood I’ll wake up in, in the morning. I could have the best night ever, but then something happens in my sleep and it could be a foul morning if something is said at the wrong time. Shit, I’ve snapped because there’s no milk for my morning coffee….Do I have a problem? Maybe… But I can at least say that I’ve acknowledged that there’s an issue. Now it’s reforming my method of expression. Because I’m not naive enough to believe that I’ll change. I’ve always been a landmine in the morning. Even if I wake up chipper, the wrong thing at the wrong time can change that mood in a heartbeat.

Maybe it’s because I feel that I’ve taken a lot of shit from a lot of people, including those in my close circle. Now I’m at a point where I can’t take shit from anyone… I won’t have it. And sometimes I’m a little ULTRA sensitive and loose with the interpretation of the “shit” people have been giving me lately. Small things, like really small things….NOTHING really can be enough to make me want to hit something. That’s when I usually write, draw, or just go out for a walk to clear my mind because the noise in my head (not like coo-coo noise, just thoughts) is too loud to get any of it to translate onto paper via pen, pencil, keyboard, what have you.

I’m trying to tame my beasts. I really am. And those who know me, who really know me…..know not to judge me in those moments… my brother just laughs now. Which pisses me off in the moment…but I’ll eventually start laughing myself when it hits me how incredibly childish I’m being. Then everything is ok. We all have our issues. We all have our weak moments, some last a second, some last a lifetime. The beauty is finding people who love you and who cherish you regardless of your “flaws,” and the ones who stick around are the ones who really matter.  

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Long Distance Pregnancy Labor and Delivery

Long Distance Pregnancy 

As I sit here counting down the remaining weeks and months of being pregnant. I can’t help but think. I have a million thoughts flooding and invading my mind and its hard to cope with them all.

But right now my main concern is that the one person I want there won’t be able to be there. To be able to see this little precious bundle of joy make its grand entrance into this world. That this beautiful process will be missing a major vital part its “daddy”. I’m well aware that women over the centuries have gone through this this without their significant other, their partner or husband and that I shouldn’t fret over it. But I still do because I want my partner there. To me its just so difficult to get over it because I so want to share this experience with him. I don’t know how I can have him apart of this from such a distance. I wish he didn’t have to face these obstacles to be here, to be apart of our babies birth.

So I find myself laying awake at night holding our belly, trying to sort this out, trying to find a way to cope. As I wipe the flood of tears that fill my eyes and ever gently rub our belly. I can’t seem to find a solution as means of getting over the real possibility that he won’t be here. It saddens me because I know he wants to see our baby make its entrance, to find out whether it’s a boy or girl. To be able to hold him or her. I just don’t know what to do and I don’t know how he’s going to handle it from a distance. Knowing he won’t be able to experience the joys and the pains of laboring. I know he’s going to be anxious and worried about what could happen. I can feel it, I sense it even if we’re over 1,000 miles away and oceans apart.

I guess my only and best solution is to learn to accept it, to get over my emotions and dreams I had for birth of our baby. I truly don’t know how I’m going to cope, as these months to weeks draw near. I’ve done pretty well not having around for the majority of our pregnancy. But to me not seeing your child being born hurts just a little because it’s life changing and such a beautiful experience. I just want our baby to be surrounded by the same love that created him or her. I know my hearts desire and I continue to wish that this would some how magically change. That he’ll walk into the room and say “I’m here!” To be able to jump right in and try to esss my pain to help calm reminding me to focus on my breathing. To just be there.

I truly hope that what I envision for my birthing plan does come true. I fight with the idea of letting it go because deep down inside he wants to be here  if he can’t I wonder how long it would take for him to see our baby to hold him or her. To enjoy the things I get to enjoy first with our baby. I want to share all these first moments with him but I know that that isn’t a possibility right now.

I have to prepare myself for both scenarios him there and him not there. I just hope he can be there soon after, with all my heart. I want him to hold our baby our little love child. I can only have faith that things will fall into places, that he will be here when the time is right. I have to continue to remain positive to change my mind set for the reminder of this pregnancy and after.

That out baby comes out healthy, happy and strong. Surrounded by all those who love him or her even from a distance. That he will be here sooner rather then later.

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