Sunset Lovers

Flowing with the Rhythms of a Woman’s Desire: The Art of Loving and Respecting Another

Some women feel unseen and invisible.  They feel like their taking care of everybody else, but nobody is taking care of them.

Most women can barely get through the day, let alone find time for pleasure or intimacy.

Elizabeth Davis is an author, women’s health care specialist, educator, consultant, and Certified Professional Midwife (CPM). She is a resident of Sebastopol, California and a mother of three children.

Author Elizabeth Davis states that women of today are beyond busy. They precariously (love that word!) juggle the demands of work, their primary relationships, their children, their friendships as well as their personal needs.

In her book as seen above, she also highlights the additional duties included in a woman’s household.

  • Running errands
  • Paying bills
  • Purchasing groceries
  • Shopping for clothing for the family
  • Supervising household repairs
  • Cooking
  • Doing the Laundry
  • Helping with children’s home work

These are just a few of the many responsibilities in a home for a woman.

However, imagine also adding a full-time job to that ever-expanding list of responsibilities. I’m flustered just thinking about it. Lol!

Even if a woman is blessed to have a loving and supportive partner, it usually takes two wage earners to make it in today’s economy.

Equality

Equality, this is even more difficult in a society that may refuse to grant women equal rights and privileges to those of men.

It is therefore now extremely stressful and frustrating for women as the society has already precast their gender roles.

Men as a group have a higher pay scale, greater benefits, more travel and free-time  and more opportunities to play than women.

On the flip side, women’s role as “Servant to all” in our social structure is greatly evident in the institutions of marriage, education, health care, business and even religion.

For years we women have been taught to be the peacemakers, to soothe and heal the emotional problems of others to the exclusion of our own.

We are constantly being accused of being angry and reactive and let’s not forget “thin skinned”.

However, how many of you realize that our angry really stems from inequality, injustice, being overwork and maybe an unsupportive social structure?

For men, society is basically supportive and therefore they are not the target, but we women frequently are.

See my previous article:50 shades of Play: Happy Valentine’s day for other examples of unreported, malicious behaviors and what you can do about it.

Rape is a prime example of this as well as the promotion of violent pornography.

The stress of competing in a man’s world has led some women to adopt male characteristics almost to the exclusion of their own.  Women no longer want to be stereotyped as weak, indecisive and irrational.

The Estella Scott-Roberts Foundation was set up on 31 October 2008 by the husband (Rayle Roberts) of the late Estella Scott-Roberts.

He created the foundation with the intention that it will carry on her work of creating a country free from violence and the advancement and empowerment of women.

Mr. Roberts has requested that any initiatives being formulated by individuals or groups that are considering using Mrs. Scott-Roberts name or image in relation to their project to contact the foundation prior to finalizing any plans.

For more information on the foundation, call 938-6300, email: esrfoundation@gmail.com or mail correspondence to P.O. Box 84 Grand Cayman KY1-1501, Cayman Islands.

Becoming Lover’s not Fighters

I take great pride in being a lover and not a fighter. I also have great respect for the many  roles that men play in our society today.

It is my intention to remind my readers about the positive features of a woman and why God made us the way he did.

Let’s remember our sensitivity (which is so needed in our society today), our flexibility and our creativity to discern and chart our own course.

I strongly believe as a mature woman that it is time to reincorporate those feminine aspects back into our way of life, our approach to problem solving and our intimate relationships.

The Art of Loving Another

People are different. In practice however, we do not fully acknowledge that people are different from us. Instead we are bent upon changing one another.  We resent, resist, and reject each other’s differences.

We tend to demand that the people in our lives feel, think and behave as we do. When they react differently, we make them seem wrong or invalidate them. Many times we try to fix them when all they really need is understanding and nurturing.

What is Love?

Some people believe that love is only the acceptance and appreciation of a person only when they have fulfilled our expectations.  Some people also believe that love is the act of changing a person into what we want them to be rather than what they choose to become.

Is love caring for or trusting a person because they think and feel the way we do?

It may feel like love to the giver but not to the receiver.  Real love is unconditional.  It does not demand but affirms and values.

Unconditional love is not possible without the recognition and acceptance of our differences.  As long as we mistakenly believe that our loved ones are better off thinking, feeling and behaving the way we do, true love will always be obstructed.

Once we realize that not only are people different, but they are supposed to be that way, the obstacles to real love begins to fall away.

To love someone is to acknowledge the goodness  of who they are. Love is also a connecting feeling.  Love relates you to another. It says you are like a part of me. Love is an attitude that embraces another as one would embrace oneself.  It upholds, nurtures, and supports.

I strongly believe that whenever we are truly feeling loved, there will also emerge a selfless desire to serve the well-being of the loved one.

What is Love in the Bible? The Greatest Gift

1 Corinthians Chapter 13

13 If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

Unity in Diversity

According to author John Gray Ph.D., accepting our psychological differences frees us to experience an underlying oneness that permeates our relationships.

He believes in an abstract way, we are all the same. He also believes that in every spiritual teaching is an acknowledgement of that oneness.

Deep within we feel a spiritual oneness with our fellow humans. When we read of children suffering from hunger, we feel in our hearts the pain we would feel if they were our own children.

Dr. John Gray also believes that the quest to open the heart takes a variety of forms:

  • The path to enlightenment
  • The quest for God
  • The dream of a happy marriage
  • Finding one’s soulmate or
  • Creating a loving family

The Seeker of Enlightenment

The Seeker of Enlightenment is drawn to a teacher because the teacher embodies something within the student that the seeker is to realize. Through loving and understanding the teacher or the teaching can indirectly assist the seeker in loving and accepting those very qualities within themselves.

Gradually the seeker finds what they seek within their own being. In this way, they are inevitably drawn to that which they need to awaken within themselves.

Union with our Soulmates

Dr. John Gray also believes we may seek to find yet a deeper union with our soulmate, a special person with whom to share our lives, as if ordained by the heavens.

We are drawn to this person not because they are similar to us but because they are different.

He believes our soulmate embodies qualities and attributes that we unconsciously seek to find within ourselves.

Through loving this person, we begin to accept and awaken those same qualities hidden within our own beings.

This discovery of self brings us greater fulfillment.

Attraction: White and Sizzling Hot!

Intense attraction to someone is a sign that there are many differences to harmonize and many conflicts to resolve.

We are drawn to that which is different.  Therefore our challenge is to understand, accept and appreciate those differences.

Who we find ourselves attracted to is beyond our control. We can be sure we like a person, but when there is attraction; rest assure that there are lessons to learn and discoveries to be made!

Let’s talk about Men

His complexion

Fair, dark, ruddy, pale as the moon, dark as the night or caramel, men come in many shades and flavors that are appealing to various women.

Do not despise what someone else may celebrate!

His Hair

Now they all have different textures, lengths and colors of hair.

I  find it fascinating sometimes to watch a beautiful head of hair being set a fire by the sun’s morning light.

Sometimes their course textures are artfully designed and inspiring.

Or we may prefer the rich, silky waves that are tenderly groomed.

His Body

Let’s be real, we all have different parts of the body that we like. Me especially! My thing is to accentuate the positives and downplay the negatives.

He may be tall, short, pleasantly plump or athletically slender.  A man who is confident in himself knows how to work with his God-given package.

I find a confident man to be very attractive.  Almost irresistible.

He’s Enjoying Life

Everyone loves to see a parade. To go to a party. To share a joke or to just enjoy life.  Everyone wants to be a part of a celebration.

When a man enjoys life, it is the greatest way to attract interest.  From the simple pleasures to more complicated delights, a man who embraces opportunities and experiences that put a spark in his eye and a bounce in his step is intensely appealing.

Joy is irresistible! Everyone is always seeking more, and if you have a surplus to pour out, believe me, someone will come for a drink!

Joy speaks of more than the ability to amuse yourself.  It speaks of wholeness, confidence, a settled heart that is comfortable.

Sean John Combs (P. Diddy)

Puff Daddy, also known as ‘Diddy’ or ‘P. Diddy’ is a three time Grammy Award winning American rapper, record producer and entrepreneur. He is one of the biggest names in the American music industry, who has successfully carved out a niche for himself. Born in Harlem, New York, tragedy struck his family when he was still a child. He lost his father who was shot dead and was later raised by his single mother.
After dropping out from Howard University, where he was studying business, he later established the Bad Boy Records, a record label, which launched the careers of many successful artists in the music industry. After a series of successful productions, he came out with his debut album titled, ‘No Way Out’, which became a massive hit. With the success of his debut album, he reached the pinnacle of his music career and went on to produce more hit albums and also launch his own albums. Some of his albums include, ‘Forever’, ‘The Saga Continues.’, ‘Press Play’ and ‘Last Train to Paris’. He also owns a clothing line.

F.Y.I.(411)

P. Diddy’s birthday is on the 4th November

Joy acts like a magnet, drawing others to itself.  When a woman sees joy in a man’s eye’s, this is translated as promises or pleasures that have yet to be revealed.

Promises she will be determined to discover.

His Originality

Even though there are many men out there, they are all different.  The question is how do they stand out?

Everyone should embrace their originality, especially men.

There are unexplained  things that every woman likes in a  man, from the way he unconsciously  rakes his fingers through his hair, to the colorful and fun-loving socks he wears.

Why? Because his quirks make him unique. There is no one else like him, and every other man now seems boring in comparison.

His Willingness to Grow

Don’t expect perfection from him, we are all unfinished products.  It is the experiences in life and our interactions with others that cause us to grow and become better people.

Accepting a man for who he is, seeing his vast potential, and allowing him to grow into it is a rare gift that delights a man when he finds it.

Why? Most men are not really expecting this.  They have grown used to women and even the society judging them. Their judged by what they do and what they have acquired.

If he is already wealthy, they society might not be as supportive of his dreams of acquiring more wealth. Many may even be deceitfully envious.

If he is highly intelligent, they may not understand his continuous need to acquire more knowledge.

If he is a philanthropist, they may scrutinize and critize his motives for all his charitable deeds.

The bottom line is most men want to build a future filled with all the people and things they desire and a life they can share.

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Testamentary Capacity, Holographic Wills and Living Trusts vs. Wills

A few years ago I acquired more information regarding making a valid will in the Cayman Islands.

The execution requirements for making a valid will in the Cayman Islands are set out in the Wills Law (2004 Revision).

It is also a requirement of Cayman Islands law that a testator must have testamentary capacity at the time of creating his or her will.

The test for testamentary capacity, known as the “golden rule,” was first explained in the English case of Banks vs. Goodfellow and it remains good law in the Cayman Islands today. Here are the facts:

(a) Does the testator understand the nature and effect of what he/she is doing;

(b) Is he/she aware, broadly, of the extent of his/her estate;

(c) Does he/she appreciate the claims of those who might reasonably expect to benefit from his/her estate; and

(d) In considering (c), is there any disorder of the mind or insane delusion that will influence the disposition of his/her property or poison his/her affections such that he/she would make a disposition of property that he/she would not otherwise have made.

In summary, the Wills Law provides that a will must be in writing; it must be signed by the testator or by some other person in his/her presence, at his/her direction.

If the latter, the testator must acknowledge such signature in the presence of two witnesses present at the same time.

If the former, the testator’s signature must be attested to by two witnesses present at the same time in his/her presence.

Subject to only two exceptions for soldiers and sailors on active service, the execution requirements must be complied with; if not, it will be invalid.​

Holographic Wills

Unfortunately, the Cayman Islands law does not, as a general principle, permit holographic wills.

Holographic wills are documents that are usually handwritten and do not comply with the strict requirements for proper execution as a will but have nevertheless been written as testamentary documents, often in extreme circumstances.

​Famous Holographic Will

The most famous holographic will was that of Cecil George Harris, a Canadian farmer who in 1948 suffered the misfortune of becoming trapped under his tractor and fearing that he was about to die, carved a will into the fender which read, “In case I die in this mess I leave all to the wife. Cecil Geo. Harris.” The fender was submitted to probate as his valid holographic will.

Testamentary Capacity

Apparently in the common law tradition, testamentary capacity is the legal term of art used to describe a person’s legal and mental ability to make or alter a valid will.

This concept has also been called sound mind and memory or disposing mind and memory. Cool!

I also learnt that Testamentary intent refers to a testator’s intention with respect to a particular instrument that functions as his/her last will.

Testamentary intent is required for a will to be valid.

Then we have to consider the person’s legal capacity to enter a contract:

Here is a definition and example:

One of the elements of a contract is capacity. Capacity means that a person is legally able to enter into a contract.

There are several things that make a person legally able to do so, including age and state of mind.

A person who is in the end stages of Alzheimer’s disease probably does not have the requisite capacity to sign legal documents.

However, a person with a diagnosis of dementia may very well be able to sign legal documents. Generally speaking, capacity is usually analyzed situationally.

The other way to change your will is by adding what is called a codicil. A codicil is like an amendment or addition to your will.

Use a codicil to revoke part of your will or add a new provision.

To be valid, they must be dated, signed, and witnessed just like a legal will.

I learnt that it is extremely important to keep your will updated. As life changes, so do potential beneficiaries and heirs.

Updating Your Last Will and Testament

If you do not keep your last will and testament updated, it may not reflect your wishes given your new circumstances. The following are good situations in which changing a will may be wise.

  • Marriage:
    • When you get married, both you and your spouse should each create a new will.
    • Most states have laws that award a percentage of your estate to your spouse upon your death.  
    • However, if you want to devise your will differently, you should specify this in your will.
    • Furthermore, adding your spouse to your will may change the percentage of your estate, or of a specific asset, that another beneficiary or heir was previously written to receive.
    • Changing a will should reflect this new proportion as you see fit.
  • Common Law Marriage:
    • The following information was all I could find that would classify eligibility:
    • Any person who has been married to a Caymanian-

v      for at least five years immediately preceding the application, where the marriage took place prior to the 1st January 2004; or

v      for at least seven years immediately preceding the application, where the marriage took place on or after 1st January 2004

v      whose marriage is not a marriage of convenience;

v      who is not living apart from his spouse under a decree of a competent court or under a deed of separation;

v      who has not lived apart from his spouse for an aggregate period of three months

v      out of the five years immediately preceding the application where the marriage took place prior to 1st January 2004; or

v      out of the seven years immediately preceding the application where the marriage took place on or after 1st January, 2004.

v      who is legally and ordinarily resident* in the Islands immediately preceding his application; and

v      who has not in any country been convicted of an offence for which a sentence of imprisonment not exceeding twelve months has been passed other than for non-payment of a fine unless-

1.      the conviction has been quashed on appeal or has been the subject of a free pardon;

2.     the act or omission giving rise to such conviction would not be an offence if done or omitted in the Islands in similar circumstances; or

3.     the conviction is one which, in the interest of justice, the Board directs to be ignored for the purposes of this section,

  • Obtaining a new partner, without marriage:
    • Only if married will your partner automatically receive assets from your estate.
    • So, if you find yourself with a new loved one, changing a will to reflect what you would like to leave that partner is necessary.
  • Divorce:
    • Upon divorce, some states revoke any gifts you leave your spouse in your will. Other states do not.
    • Changing a will upon a divorce is very important.
    • You will want to either specify what you want to leave your former spouse, or else specify how those gifts should now be distributed.
  • A new baby:
    • There are laws in some states that give children some portion of your assets upon your death.
    • However, not everyone wants their property to be distributed the way the state laws specify.
    • If you welcome a new baby into your family, be sure to specify what gifts, the baby shall receive, by changing a will.
    • Perhaps more importantly, be sure to appoint a guardian for the baby.
    • This will be the person who will care for your baby should anything happen to you.
  • New stepchildren:
    • Stepchildren are not automatically entitled to inherit a share of your property in many states.
    • Therefore, if you would like for your stepchildren to inherit any of your property, be sure to specify your wishes by changing your own will.
  • Moving from a community property state to a common law property state:
    • The laws governing what each spouse owns vary depending on whether the couple lives in a community property state or a common law property state.
    • Therefore, if you are planning on moving to a new state, check that states laws.
    • If it differs from the one you currently reside it, be sure to change your own will, according to your new property ownership status.

i.e.    Persons of independent means:

The Cayman Islands Government offers five Immigration products for wealthy, private investors and senior executives who are seeking long-term residence in the Cayman Islands.

1.      Certificate of Permanent Residency for Persons of Independent Means (Form R5) – Persons who invest a minimum of two million Cayman Islands’ Dollars in developed real estate in the Cayman Islands may apply for a Certificate of Permanent Residence for Persons of Independent Means.

As the Certificate title denotes, a holder has the right to reside indefinitely in the Cayman Islands.

A holder will also have the option of seeking naturalization as a British Overseas Territories Citizen and, thereafter, the right to be Caymanian.

A holder and his spouse may also have their permission to remain varied to allow the right to work in the Cayman Islands.

2.      Residency Certificate for Persons of Independent Means Form R2 – This facility is for persons who wish to reside long-term in the Cayman Islands without the right to work.

Applicants will be required to demonstrate that they have invested a prescribed minimum amount in developed real estate in the Islands and that they meet certain financial standing requirements.

A successful applicant will be granted permission to reside in the Islands for a period of 25 years (renewable). This residence type cannot be varied to allow the right to work.

3.      Certificate of Direct Investment Form R8 – The Certificate of Direct Investment is for persons who invest, or propose to invest, a minimum prescribed amount in a licensed employment generating business in the Cayman Islands and in which he/she will exercise substantial management control.

An applicant must demonstrate a substantial business track record or an entrepreneurial background, including specific professional, technical and other knowledge relevant and necessary to carry on the business.

4.      Residency Certificate (Substantial Business Presence) Form R6 – This facility is for persons who invest in, or who are employed in a senior management capacity within, an approved category of business in the Cayman Islands.

A successful applicant is granted a Residency Certificate valid for 25 years (renewable) which entitles him to reside in the Islands and to work in the business in which he has invested or is employed in a senior management capacity.

  • Changing your mind about heirs: Of course, things can happen in life that cause people to change their minds about the way in which they’d like their property distributed. Changing a will to reflect these new wishes is important.
  • New or disposed of assets: Perhaps in your will you would like to leave all of your property or a percentage of your property to your heirs, then what you own changes and there is no need to change your will. However, if you have willed certain gifts to people in your will, and you no longer have those properties, be sure to remove said property from your will. Additionally, when you acquire new property, be sure to account for that in your will.

Ways of changing a will

The easiest way of changing a will is simply to make a new will. It is imperative that you revoke the old will.

To do this, simply write a statement in the new will that states that you revoke all wills and codicils that you have previously made.

This is sufficient to revoke any previous wills, but it is wise to also destroy any of your previous wills in order to avoid confusion or challenges to your new will.

The other way to change your will is by adding what is called a codicil.

A codicil is like an amendment or addition to your will. Use a codicil to revoke part of your will or add a new provision.

To be valid, they must be dated, signed, and witnessed just like a legal will.

Codicils were an efficient way of changing a will before there were computers and printing was a hassle.

Today, codicils should be avoided wherever possible. They can cause confusion, be lost, and are sometimes even a means to challenge wills.

That information is definitely worth remembering!

Changes to other estate documents

Much of your property passes by law to beneficiaries, despite what your will says.

Property such as retirement proceeds, life insurance proceeds, joint bank accounts, payable-on-death bank accounts, and stocks registered with a transfer-on-death form all pass directly to a specified beneficiary.

If you change your mind about who the beneficiary should be, change the names using the forms on which you named the original beneficiaries.

Do not change the named beneficiaries through your will, for it will have no effect.

Living trusts are also not affected by the terms of your will. If you decide to change the terms of your living trust, add an amendment to the original trust document. Then, transfer property in or out of the trustee’s name, accordingly.

You do not need to worry about having to revoke a trust and create an original one, like when changing a will.

Living Trust

What Is a Living Trust?

Aliving trust is a legal document, or trust, created during an individual’s lifetime where a designated person, the trustee, is given responsibility for managing that individual’s assets for the benefit of the eventual beneficiary.

A living trust is designed to allow for the easy transfer of the trust creator or settlor’s assets while bypassing the often complex and expensive legal process of probate. Living trust agreements designate a trustee who holds legal possession of assets and property that flow into the trust.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

  • A living trust designates a trustee to manage assets for the beneficiary, while the grantor is still alive.
  • Trustees with fiduciary duty manage trusts according to the beneficiary’s best interests.
  • Living trusts can be either irrevocable or revocable.

How Living Trusts Work

Living trusts are managed by a trustee who typically has a fiduciary duty to manage the trust prudently in the best interests of the trust’s beneficiary or beneficiaries designated by the trust settlor, also called a grantor. Upon the death of the settlor, these assets flow to the beneficiaries according to the grantor’s wishes as outlined in the trust agreement. Unlike a will, however, a living trust is in effect while the settlor is alive and the trust does not have to clear the courts to reach its intended beneficiaries when the settlor dies or becomes incapacitated. 

Types of Living Trusts

Living trusts can be irrevocable or revocable.

Living Revocable Trust

With a living revocable trust, the trust settlor can designate himself or herself as the trustee and take control of assets within the trust. However, this stipulation means the assets in the trust remain a part of the trust settlor’s estate, meaning the individual may still be liable for estate taxes should the estate be valued beyond the estate tax exemption at the time of death. The trust settlor also has the power to change and amend trust rules at any time. This means the trust settlor is free to change beneficiaries or undo the trust altogether.  

Irrevocable Living Trust

With an irrevocable living trust, the settlor relinquishes certain rights to control over the trust. The trustee effectively becomes legal owner, but the individual would also reduce his or her taxable estate. Once the trust agreement for an irrevocable living trust is made, the named beneficiaries are set and the settlor can do little to amend that agreement. 

Wills and Trusts

Wills and Trusts are both estate planning documents used to pass assets on to beneficiaries at death. … Here are five ways in which a Trust is better than a Will to pass your estate to your beneficiaries. A Trust can be used to Avoid Probate – a Will cannot.

When you die, this creates a change of beneficiary or beneficiaries. The person or persons you named in your trust documents to inherit from you become the new beneficiaries upon your death. They now own the assets you placed in your trust, according to the terms you decided when you made it.

Advantages to using a Trust over a Will

Wills and Trusts are both estate planning documents used to pass assets on to beneficiaries at death.  However, there are distinct advantages to using a Trust over a Will.  Here are five ways in which a Trust is better than a Will to pass your estate to your beneficiaries.

  1. A Trust can be used to Avoid Probate – a Will cannot. Probate is the process of changing the title on assets when someone passes away.  Assets that are owned in a deceased person’s individual name and for which there is no named beneficiary are no longer accessible once the owner of the asset has died. In order for family members to gain access to accounts or other assets in the deceased’s individual name, they must file a petition with the probate court and wait for the court to approve the Will and appoint the Personal Representative.  This can be a long and costly process during which bills cannot be paid and assets cannot be managed.  A Trust is an excellent probate avoidance tool because assets that are owned in the name of a Trust are immediately accessible to the trust-maker’s designated successor.
  2. A Trust can provide Creditor Protection for the Inheritance you Leave to Beneficiaries – a Will cannot. Many people worry that the inheritance they leave to their children will be lost to their children’s creditors such as a divorcing spouse, unpaid credit card bills, a bankruptcy, a business loss, or a lawsuit.  Sadly, this is often the case when assets are distributed to beneficiaries via a Will.  A Trust allows the maker to safeguard an inheritance from the reach of the beneficiaries’ creditors by keeping the assets out of the name of the beneficiary.  Ownership of the assets remains in the Trust.  The beneficiary will have access to the assets in accordance with the directions you leave in your Trust. You may also allow your beneficiary to serve as Trustee, allowing the beneficiary to manage her own inheritance.  By leaving assets to your beneficiaries via a Trust rather than outright via your Will, you can ensure that the assets you worked so hard for will be available to your children and future generations.
  3. A Trust can Protect Governmental Benefits for a Person with Disabilities – a Will cannot. If you have a child, grandchild or other beneficiary with disabilities, then a Trust is a must.  If you leave assets to a person who receives needs-based governmental benefits via your Will, it will place your beneficiary in the difficult position of either losing those benefits, or transferring the inheritance into a Trust of which the state must be the beneficiary at the beneficiary’s death.  Unless the inheritance you are leaving is so significant that the monetary and medical benefits available to the person through programs such as Social Security and Medicaid are no longer important, then making sure that those governmental benefits continue to be available is vital.  Leaving assets to a person with disabilities via a Trust is the best way to ensure those governmental benefits are preserved and that the inheritance you leave will be available to pay for expenses that are not covered by these governmental benefits, which while vital to many, are limited in their scope.
  4. Trusts can Reduce Estate Taxes – a Traditional Will cannot. Many married couples have so-called “I-love-you” Wills, which leave all assets outright to the surviving spouse upon the first death.  If you have an estate of more than $1,000,000, then using “I-love-you” Wills means that money you think you are leaving to your beneficiaries will in fact be going to the Commonwealth of Massachusetts in the form of estate tax payable at the surviving spouse’s death.  If you would prefer that your assets pass to your family, create Trusts to reduce estate taxes.  Estate tax planning via Trusts for married couples is standard planning and permissible under both state and federal tax laws.
  5. A Trust can Administer Assets for Minor Beneficiaries without Court Intervention – a Will cannot. Leaving money directly to a minor creates an administrative nightmare because the law provides that a minor does not have the legal capacity to receive assets. The parent of the minor also does not have the ability to act as the child’s legal representative until the court says so.  As such, if you die with a Will that leaves money to minor beneficiaries, the court will need to appoint a Conservator to receive that inheritance for your children.  The Conservator will be required to report annually to the court and the court will appoint an overseer (guardian ad litem) to make sure the Conservator is doing his or her job for your minor beneficiaries.  This means huge costs and long delays in administering funds for minors.  It also means that when the minor turns 18, he or she will be entitled to receive all of those assets and will be free to do with them as he or she wishes (think fast cars, spring break, and lots of shopping).  Creating a Trust to receive assets passing to a minor, or even to a young adult beneficiary, is the best way to ensure that the court is not involved in the process, that the person  you want to manage assets for the beneficiary is able to do so, and that the beneficiary can use  the assets only for purposes you decide are important and/or at ages that you dictate.

These are just five ways in which a Trust is superior to a Will.

When There is no Will

According to Robert Mack, HSM Chambers, most people know that making a will is the “adult thing” to do, especially when children and other dependents are involved.

However, like most unpleasant things in life, we tend to put it off for as long as possible.

In some tragic cases life can end suddenly and unexpectedly, or a person can be struck down by illness and lose their mental capacity which would otherwise prevent them from creating a valid will.

So, when there is no will, what is the way?

See the Journal’s  link below for more details:

Where there’s no will – there’s a way

Digital Assets

Let’s also not forget that digital assets fall into two broad categories: valuable and sentimental.

Valuable digital assets include such things as cryptocurrencies, online investment/bank accounts, online store credits, intellectual property, and anything else which has a tangible dollar value attached to it.

Sentimental digital assets, on the other hand, include photographs, personal videos, blog posts, social media accounts, and information held in email messages.

So how can a Will manage these two distinct types of digital assets?

See the Link below for more details:

The Strength of our Jamaican Women (The new type of Athletic Girl)

In the Western world, not only have men dominated the playing fields, but athletic qualities such as aggression, competitiveness, strength, speed, power, and teamwork have always been associated with masculinity.

Consequently, the controversy surrounding female athleticism introduced fundamental questions about what exactly was considered manhood and womanhood.

Would women engaging in a traditional male activity become more manlike?


Shelly Ann Fraser Pryce

Would they still aspire to become mothers, be considered attractive, find men attractive and desire feminine attire?

These are just some of the questions female athletes have had to challenge and endure and continue to do so over the years.

Nineteenth-century medical science characterized women as the physiologically inferior sex, weakened and ruled by their reproductive systems.

Formally educated doctors at the time, eager to secure their professional status took a special interest in women’s health problems and sought to emphasis women’s “poor health”. (Lol!)

Special negative interest was placed on women’s chronic fatigue, pain and illness, mood swings, and menstrual irregularities.

Experts at the time even theorized that the cyclical fluctuations of female physiology caused physical, emotional, and moral vulnerability and debilitation.

Imagine that!

Even critics at the time believed that sports posed dangers to the female reproductive system and a loss of sexual control or perhaps even a loss of sexual desires altogether.

The above sentence I had to read a few times and even check the validity of the book, “Coming on Strong, Gender and Sexuality in Twentieth-Century Women’s Sport by Susan K. Cahn” where I received the information. Lol!

Susan K. Cahn has done a serious study of women in sports and at the time when the above-mentioned book was published in 1994 she was an assistant professor of history at the State University of New York at Buffalo.

I felt she effectively captured the challenge women faced on all fronts.

From the women who were being accused of being poor imitations of male athletes to the Athletic Directors, Coaches and Physical Education Teachers who were known for imposing constraints through dress codes, off-field behavior codes, and “girls’ rules” that limited physical contact and reduced the size of playing courts and fields.

Cahn even touched on the perceptions of sexual danger for women in sports and that such perceptions were fueled by widespread societal fears about female passions running “red hot” and becoming unleashed and out of control. (Lol!)

According to the library of Congress, during the 1928 and 1932 Olympics, critics objected to women’s high-level strenuous competition as physically and mentally injurious, they even attempted to eliminate track and field from regional and national events.

However, Betty Robinson, a Chicagoan who in 1928 won the first-ever Olympic women’s 100-meter sprint, thankfully ignored them.
Amen!

By the 1930s, it was the “masculine” quality of track and field rather than its effect on women’s health that drew the most criticism.

Thank the Lord- Now I actual feel during my research that the criticism might actually have some merit because the initial objections were just too hilarious!

Further in my studies I learnt that African American interest in track and field and the growing tolerance towards women’s athletics set the stage for the emergence of black women’s track at the precise moment when the majority of white women and the white public rejected the sport as undignified for women.

African American women compiled their record of excellence while suffering the constraints of racial and gender discrimination.

However, despite these obstacles black women’s track and field survived and even thrived.

I’m very proud of my home country Jamaica and the wealth of talented athletes they have produced over the years.

Jamaican sprinter Elaine Thompson is one of the fastest women in the world and at 25, I believe we still haven’t seen anything yet!

I strongly believe she’s a force to be reckon with and truly epitomizes what our Caribbean young ladies can aspire to become like one day.

Many other beautiful and gifted athletes like Shelly-Ann Fraser-Pryce and Veronica Campbell-Brown, just to name a few, are actively forging ahead and creating wonderful examples of what an athletic woman can become, even though they are continuous scrutinized.

However, they must endure and show the world the enormous strength it takes to be a leader in the realm of sports that was once considered “just for men”

The 100m specialist Shelly-Ann first caught the world’s attention at the 2008 Olympic Games when she became the first Caribbean woman to win the 100m gold at the Olympics. At the time she was only 21 years old. Imagine that young ladies!

In 2012, she then successfully defended her 100m title, becoming the third woman to win two consecutive 100m gold medals again at the Olympics.

Then, after winning bronze at the 2016 Summer Olympics, she then became the first woman in history to win 100m medals at three consecutive Olympic Games.

She has also won seven World Championships gold medals across the 100m, 200m and 4X100 relay events.


PM Holness with Shelly Ann Fraser Pryce and Basil Watson holding carved piece of Pryce

Are you a Lover, Fighter or both? Spiritual Warfare and the 7 Deadly Sins

Regardless of the countless distractions, fears, and setbacks in life, if you are a fighter and ready for warfare, you are resilient and will tenaciously focus on the vision or goal that you have created for your life.

Mr. & Mrs. Smith
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7rks3w-4UEk

John (Brad Pitt) and Jane Smith (Angelina Jolie), a couple in a stagnating marriage, live a deceptively mundane existence. However, each has been hiding a secret from the other: they are assassins working for adversarial agencies. When they are both assigned to kill the same target, Benjamin Danz (Adam Brody), the truth comes to the surface. Finally, free from their cover stories, they discover that they have been assigned to kill each other, sparking a series of explosive attacks.

I highly recommend writing out your vision or dream and cementing it with a mission statement so that it becomes clear and compelling.

Next, you may want to review it occasionally and record the different lifestyle changes that have taken place and make necessary adjustments as unforeseen events inevitably might occur and reshape the basic logistics of your vision.

Reviewing and adjusting solidifies your original foundation and helps you to ascertain whether or not you are thriving within your environment.

Speaking of thriving and surviving- Did you know that fighter pilots in World War II had different methods and tactics of survival they developed in order to remain steadfast through every mission they had to fly?

In order to get through the numerous moments of being tired, stressed and on the verge of panic at the sight of each new enemy plane, the fighter pilots would leave behind or carry sentimental objects that reminded them of loved-ones or they would make promises to their loved ones that they knew they had to keep.

For example, a letter that remained unread or a promise of marriage to someone left behind.

The following movie Unbroken: Path to Redemption, which was directed by Angelina Jolie is a magnificently portrayed example of survival and the strength of the human spirit in spite of numerous obstacles.

Unbroken: Path to Redemption
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kk1M_HwmFMM  

As a boy, Louis “Louie” Zamperini is always in trouble, but with the help of his older brother, he turns his life around and channels his energy into running, later qualifying for the 1936 Olympics. When World War II breaks out, Louie enlists in the military. After his plane crashes in the Pacific, he survives an incredible 47 days adrift in a raft, until his capture by the Japanese navy. Sent to a POW camp, Louie becomes the favorite target of a particularly cruel prison commander.

Also, as the fighter pilots in World War II story unfolded, I learnt that not only did they leave something or someone behind to look forward to, they may also leave something to complete.

That way their minds could focus on that thought and arouse or stimulate the necessary motivation to face one more “dogfight”, or survive another loss of a dear friend on the battle field and get through one more mission.

Just like in the movie Unbroken: Path to Redemption, the story I read illustrated where the real battle begins and ends.

The fighter pilots knew that while in battle the temptation to give in to physical wariness and breakdown under various psychological traumas was extremely high.

The real war wasn’t on the battle field- the real war was in the mind.

Alita, Battle Angel
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w7pYhpJaJW8

Set several centuries in the future, the abandoned Alita is found in the scrapyard of Iron City by Ido, a compassionate cyber-doctor who takes the unconscious cyborg Alita to his clinic. When Alita awakens, she has no memory of who she is, nor does she have any recognition of the world she finds herself in. As Alita learns to navigate her new life and the treacherous streets of Iron City, Ido tries to shield her from her mysterious past.

See my previous article: The Fear of Oblivion- Are you Resilient? Lest we Forget: Remembrance Day

Even though we celebrate our veteran’s heroism, the ugly truth is many of them both locally and around the world have been exposed to numerous traumatic events.

Many Research Experts have agreed that most of the times, PTSD (Posttraumatic Stress Disorder) develops shortly after exposure to the traumatic event. Sometimes, it may even be delayed months or even years later and may be triggered by something that is reminiscent of the original stressor. Wow!

However, please note that not everyone who is exposed to a terrible event goes on to develop PTSD. It really depends on the individual and the nature of the event.

Some people, particularly those with preexisting emotional or personality problems, are naturally more susceptible to being scarred by traumatic events.

Posttraumatic Stress Disorder was born originally on the battlefield and was known by a number of names such as “shell Shock”, “combat fatigue”, or “war neurosis”.

However, according to Allen Frances M.D. and Michael B. First M.D., horrifying experiences are by no means restricted to only warfare.

Community surveys that were done uncovered the fact that the majority of us have been exposed at some point in our lives to an event that involved actual or threatened death or serious injury.

For example, car accidents, natural disasters, torture, concentration camps, rape, sexual or physical abuse and other crimes.

See the two following articles which illustrates behaviors and circumstances:

Smooth Criminal/Love the way you Lie: Traumatic Bonding

https://www.teneishajohnson-dream.com/smooth-criminal-love-the-way-you-li

Fifty Shades of Play: Happy Valentine’s Day!

https://www.teneishajohnson-dream.com/50-shades-of-play-happy-valentines-

Dancing away the Depression: Discovering your unique Talents

https://www.teneishajohnson-dream.com/dancing-away-the-depression

Gaslighting

Let’s also not forget other forms of psychological manipulations such as gaslighting.

Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation that seeks to sow seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or in members of a targeted group, making them question their own memory, perception, and sanity.

In order to gain more power, the person or entity makes the victim question their reality. It works much better than you may think. Anyone is susceptible to gaslighting, and it is a common technique of abusers, dictators, narcissists, and cult leaders.

It is done slowly, so the victim doesn’t realize how much they’ve been brainwashed. For example, in the movie Gaslight (1944), a man manipulates his wife to the point where she thinks she is losing her mind.

A gas lighter will tell you that you’d be a worthy person if only you didn’t have such a long list of negative traits. They attack the very foundation of your being.

When dealing with a person or entity that gaslights, look at what they are doing rather than what they are saying. What they are saying means nothing; it is just talk. What they are doing is the issue. 

Occasionally, they may throw in positive reinforcement to confuse you.

This person or entity that is cutting you down, telling you that you don’t have value, is now praising you for something you did. This adds an additional sense of uneasiness. You think, “Well maybe they aren’t so bad.” Yes, they are!

This is a calculated attempt to keep you off-kilter—and again, to question your reality.

Also look at what you were praised for; it is probably something that served the gas lighter.

Gas lighters know that confusion weakens people.

Gas lighters know that people like having a sense of stability and normalcy. Their goal is to uproot this and make you constantly question everything. And humans’ natural tendency is to look to the person or entity that will help you feel more stable—and that happens to be the gas lighter. 

They often project their opinions on their “prey”.

Many times, they are drug users or cheaters, yet they are constantly accusing you the victim of that very behavior. This is done so often that you start trying to defend yourself, and are distracted from the gas lighter’s own behavior.

Unfortunately, they may even try to align people against you.

Gas lighters are masters at manipulating and finding the people they know will stand by them no matter what—and they use these people against you.

They will make comments such as, “This person knows that you’re not right in your head or have a tendency to ‘go crazy’”.

Or “you’re always gazing off in space,” or “This person knows you’re useless too” or “This person does not trust you either” or “This person also does not believe you are capable of holding down a regular job consistently”.

Keep in mind it does not mean that these people actually said these things. A gas lighter is a constant liar.

When the gas lighter uses this tactic, it makes you feel like you don’t know who to trust or turn to—and that leads you right back to the gas lighter.

And that’s exactly what they want: Isolation gives them more control. 

Once again, they love telling you or others that you are crazy. This is one of the most effective tools of the gas lighter, because it’s dismissive.

The gas lighter knows that if they question your sanity, people will not believe you when you tell them that the gas lighter is abusive or out-of-control. It’s a master technique.

The more you are aware of these techniques, the quicker you can identify them and avoid falling into a gas lighter’s trap.  

Additionally, my bible tells me the following in Ephesians 6:12 (New International Version) NIV

For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.

According to Commonweal Magazine, The New Testament’s extensive language concerning malevolent spiritual forces is never humorous.

Apparently, the terminology varies and some texts speak of the Devil or Satan, while others speak of demons or unclean spirits which represent powers and principalities.

There are also such descriptions as the Ruler of the Power of the Air and the Dragon or Ancient Serpent.

Regardless of the description, when taken together, these terms point to a conviction, broadly shared by the writers of the New Testament, that a cosmic power, lesser than God but greater than humans alone, inhabited the world and worked against human good in a manner that was far from funny or creatively orchestrated like in the movies. 

Satan hates ALL humans and he does not discriminate!

At the personal level, the bible says that Paul, an Apostle of Christ Jesus by the will of God, speaks of Satan as a constant threat, one lying outside the community yet capable of causing damage within.

More cosmically he envisions “powers and principalities” which, though conquered by the death and exaltation of Christ, remain capable of opposing believers, who must continue to do battle “against the cosmic powers of this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places” (Once again, as I mentioned from Ephesians 6:12).

Similarly, Peter pictures the Devil as a ravening beast out to destroy unwary believers, and counsels them to “be sober and watch, because your adversary the Devil goes about like a roaring lion seeking whom he may devour” (1 Peter 5:8).

In the bible, Luke imagines Satan as the arrogant ruler of a kingdom counter to God’s own, capable of granting great power to those willing to worship him, and commanding a vast army of demonic spirits.

John declares that “the whole world lies under the power of the evil one.”

Praise for Spiritual Blessings in Christ


Ephesians Chapter 1, vs 3:13, New International Version (NIV)

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing in Christ.

For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight.
In love

he predestined us for adoption to sonship through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will— to the praise of his glorious grace, which he has freely given us in the One he loves.

In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace that he lavished on us. With all wisdom and understanding,

he made known to us the mystery of his will according to his good pleasure, which he purposed in Christ,

10 to be put into effect when the times reach their fulfillment—to bring unity to all things in heaven and on earth under Christ.

11 In him we were also chosen, having been predestined according to the plan of him who works out everything in conformity with the purpose of his will, 12 in order that we, who were the first to put our hope in Christ, might be for the praise of his glory.
 

13 And you also were included in Christ when you heard the message of truth, the gospel of your salvation. When you believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit,

14 who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God’s possession—to the praise of his glory.

The Holy Bible

Finally, the Book of Revelation imagines the world caught in a cosmic battle between Christ and Satan, the great beast waging ceaseless war against the saints in unholy alliance with the corrupt power of an empire that buys and sells human lives and brands them with its mark.

The Thousand Years

20 And I saw an angel coming down out of heaven, having the key to the Abyss and holding in his hand a great chain. He seized the dragon, that ancient serpent, who is the devil, or Satan, and bound him for a thousand years.

He threw him into the Abyss, and locked and sealed it over him, to keep him from deceiving the nations anymore until the thousand years were ended. After that, he must be set free for a short time.

I saw thrones on which were seated those who had been given authority to judge. And I saw the souls of those who had been beheaded because of their testimony about Jesus and because of the word of God.

They had not worshiped the beast or its image and had not received its mark on their foreheads or their hands. They came to life and reigned with Christ a thousand years.

(The rest of the dead did not come to life until the thousand years were ended.) This is the first resurrection.

Blessed and holy are those who share in the first resurrection. The second death has no power over them, but they will be priests of God and of Christ and will reign with him for a thousand years.

The Judgment of Satan

When the thousand years are over, Satan will be released from his prison

and will go out to deceive the nations in the four corners of the earth—Gog and Magog—and to gather them for battle. In number they are like the sand on the seashore.

They marched across the breadth of the earth and surrounded the camp of God’s people, the city he loves. But fire came down from heaven and devoured them.

10 And the devil, who deceived them, was thrown into the lake of burning sulfur, where the beast and the false prophet had been thrown. They will be tormented day and night for ever and ever.

Now, many of the previous paragraphs and links illustrated negative behaviors and their affects, however, how many of you know that God’s correction is different.

With God’s correction-conviction is concerning the attitude or deed of the person and then there is a call for repentance.

Next, there should be an assurance of forgiveness and restoration to remind the individual of their value as God’s child.

7 Deadly Sins

People have always been known to be immoral, shiftless, and self-gratifying. For ages, humankind struggled to find a conceptual system to understand their spiritual shortcomings.

Wrath is manifested in the individual who spurns love and opts instead for fury. It is also known as Anger.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w-XO4XiRop0

As a beautiful young woman of pure heart, Maleficent (Angelina Jolie) has an idyllic life in a forest kingdom. When an invading army threatens the land, Maleficent rises up to become its fiercest protector. However, a terrible betrayal hardens her heart and twists her into a creature bent on revenge. She engages in an epic battle with the invading king’s successor, then curses his newborn daughter, Aurora — realizing only later that the child holds the key to peace in the kingdom. “
Maleficent 2
Starring Angelina Jolie

Speaking of wrath; from a biblical perspective, the New Testament also has references regarding the Great Tribulation and the wrath of God.

The Wrath of God and the three angels (Revelation 14:6-13)

6   Then I saw another angel flying in midair, and he had the eternal gospel to proclaim to those who live on the earth- to every nation, tribe, language and people.

7   He said in a loud voice, “Fear God and give him glory, because the hour of his judgement has come. Worship him who made the heavens, the earth, the sea and the springs of water.”

8   A second angel followed and said, “Fallen! Fallen is Babylon the Great, which made all the nations drink the maddening wine of her adulteries.”

Britney Spears, Toxic

9   A third angel followed them and said in a loud voice: “If anyone worships the beast and its image and receives its mark on their forehead or on their hand,

10   they too, will drink the wine of God’s fury, which has been poured full strength into the cup of his wrath. They will be tormented with burning sulfur in the presence of the holy angels and of the Lamb.

11   And the smoke of their torment will rise for ever and ever. There will be no rest day or night for those who worship the beast and its image, or for anyone who receives the mark of its name.”

12   This calls for patient endurance on the part of the people of God who keep his commands and remain faithful to Jesus.

13   Then I heard a voice from heaven say, “Write this: Blessed are the dead who die in the Lord from now on.”

“Yes,” says the Spirit, “they will rest from their labor, for their deeds will follow them.”

Pride is excessive belief in one’s own abilities, that interferes with the individual’s recognition of the grace of God. It has been called the sin from which all others arise.

Pride is also known as Vanity.

Beowulf
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6LETvY2mdls

In the age of heroes, a mighty warrior named Beowulf (Ray Winstone) arrives at the court of King Hrothgar (Anthony Hopkins) and offers to rid the kingdom of a vicious demon called Grendel. He successfully slays the beast but thus incurs the wrath of Grendel’s mother (Angelina Jolie), a creature as vicious and vengeful as she is seductive.

Babylon The Great, The Mother of Prostitutes and of the Abominations of the Earth

17 One of the seven angels who had the seven bowls came and said to me, “Come, I will show you the punishment of the great prostitute, who sits by many waters. 2 With her the kings of the earth committed adultery, and the inhabitants of the earth were intoxicated with the wine of her adulteries.”

3 Then the angel carried me away in the Spirit into a wilderness. There I saw a woman sitting on a scarlet beast that was covered with blasphemous names and had seven heads and ten horns. 4 The woman was dressed in purple and scarlet, and was glittering with gold, precious stones and pearls. She held a golden cup in her hand, filled with abominable things and the filth of her adulteries. 5 The name written on her forehead was a mystery:

BABYLON THE GREAT
THE MOTHER OF PROSTITUTES
AND OF THE ABOMINATIONS OF THE EARTH.

6 I saw that the woman was drunk with the blood of God’s holy people, the blood of those who bore testimony to Jesus.

When I saw her; I was greatly astonished. 7 Then the angel said to me: “Why are you astonished? I will explain to you the mystery of the woman and of the beast she rides, which has the seven heads and ten horns.

8 The beast, which you saw, once was, now is not, and yet will come up out of the Abyss and go to its destruction. The inhabitants of the earth whose names have not been written in the book of life from the creation of the world will be astonished when they see the beast, because it once was, now is not, and yet will come.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lWA2pjMjpBs

9 “This calls for a mind with wisdom. The seven heads are seven hills on which the woman sits. 10 They are also seven kings. Five have fallen, one is, the other has not yet come; but when he does come, he must remain for only a little while. 11 The beast who once was, and now is not, is an eighth king. He belongs to the seven and is going to his destruction.

12 “The ten horns you saw are ten kings who have not yet received a kingdom, but who for one hour will receive authority as kings along with the beast. 13 They have one purpose and will give their power and authority to the beast. 14 They will wage war against the Lamb, but the Lamb will triumph over them because he is Lord of lords and King of kings—and with him will be his called, chosen and faithful followers.”

15 Then the angel said to me, “The waters you saw, where the prostitute sits, are peoples, multitudes, nations and languages. 16 The beast and the ten horns you saw will hate the prostitute. They will bring her to ruin and leave her naked; they will eat her flesh and burn her with fire.

17 For God has put it into their hearts to accomplish his purpose by agreeing to hand over to the beast their royal authority, until God’s words are fulfilled. 18 The woman you saw is the great city that rules over the kings of the earth.”

Greed is the desire for material wealth or gain, ignoring the realm of the spiritual. It is also called Avarice or Covetousness.

Lust is an inordinate craving for the pleasures of the body.

Original Sin
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O5l24CwewWc

Luis (Antonio Banderas) and Julia (Angelina Jolie) are bound together first by matrimony, and then, by fierce love and desire. But the closer Luis becomes to Julia, the more enigmatic she seems to be. For Luis, the loneliness which led to love becomes a passion which transcends reason and defies convention, as he and Julia engage in a dangerous dance that takes them across the landscape of Cuba, into obsession, eroticism… and perhaps even murder.

Envy is the desire for others’ traits, status, abilities, or situation.

Unbroken, The Path to Redemption
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kk1M_HwmFMM

Directed by Angelina Jolie
As a boy, Louis “Louie” Zamperini is always in trouble, but with the help of his older brother, he turns his life around and channels his energy into running, later qualifying for the 1936 Olympics. When World War II breaks out, Louie enlists in the military. After his plane crashes in the Pacific, he survives an incredible 47 days adrift in a raft, until his capture by the Japanese navy. Sent to a POW camp, Louie becomes the favorite target of a particularly cruel prison commander

Submit Yourselves to God (James 4:1-10 NIV)

What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.

You adulterous people, don’t you know that friendship with the world means enmity against God? Therefore, anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God. Or do you think Scripture says without reason that he jealously longs for the spirit he has caused to dwell in us[b? But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:

“God opposes the proud
    but shows favor to the humble.”

Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. Grieve, mourn and wail. Change your laughter to mourning and your joy to gloom. 10 Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up.

Gluttony is an inordinate desire to consume more than that which one requires.

Like other bears, pandas spend most of the day eating and sleeping. Bamboo is the most important plant for giant pandas. They spend at least 12 hours each day eating bamboo. Because bamboo is so low in nutrients, pandas eat a lot of it daily.

Kung Fu Panda
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PXi3Mv6KMzY

Po might just be the laziest, clumsiest panda in the Valley of Peace, but he secretly dreams of becoming a kung fu legend. When the villainous snow leopard Tai Lung threatens Po’s homeland, the hapless panda is chosen to fulfil an ancient prophecy and defend the Valley from attack. Training under Master Shifu, Po embarks on an epic high-kicking adventure as he sets out to thwart Tai Lung’s evil plans.
Angelina Jolie as Master Tigress in Kung Fu Panda
Angelina Jolie as Master Tigress in Kung Fu Panda

Sloth is the avoidance of physical or spiritual work.

Girl Interrupted
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5BHHUBZf7y4
A lazy scence, featuring Angelina Jolie’s character called Lisa
Girl, Interrupted
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5BHHUBZf7y4

Set in the changing world of the late 1960s, “Girl, interrupted” is the searing true story of Susanna Kaysen (Winona Ryder), a young woman who finds herself at a renowned mental institution for troubled young women, where she must choose between the world of people who belong on the inside — like the seductive and dangerous Lisa (Angelina Jolie) — or the often-difficult world of reality on the outside.
Playing God
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0pqbja582To

One-time surgeon Eugene Sands loses his license for the negligent death of a patient for drugs addiction, and his life spirals into chaos. He finds himself in the employ of a shady gangster and soon becomes embroiled in dark and dangerous dealings.

The final sin as mentioned above was sloth and is said to be the avoidance of physical or spiritual work.

However, how many of you know that once you have been called, it is then critical that you share the Gospel of the Lord Jesus Christ?

According to Tim LaHaye and Thomas Ice, coauthors of Left Behind and Charting the End Times, it is difficult for non-Christians to understand that a God of love would allow the tribulation.

But I agree with them that God really wants to draw as many people as possible to Him before Jesus returns to set up His Millennial Kingdom, and He will use the Tribulation to get their attention.

They believe that in grace and love, He will give more supernatural signs and leadings of His Spirit than at any time in the history of the world, proving that he is “not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance” (2 Peter 3:9).

In the book of Revelation, Chapter 3, the Bible says to the angel of the church in Sardis:

1   These are the words of him who holds the seven spirits of God and the seven stars. I know your deeds; you have a reputation of being alive, but you are dead.

2   Wake up! Strengthen what remains and is about to die, for I have found your deeds unfinished in the sight of my God.

3   Remember, therefore, what you have received and heard; hold it fast, and repent. But if you do not wake up, I will come like a thief, and you will not know at what time I will come to you.

Then to the angel of the church in Philadelphia:

7   These are the words of him who is holy and true, who holds the key of David. What he opens no one can shut, and what he shuts no one can open.

8   I know your deeds. See, I have placed before you an open door that no one can shut. I know that you have little strength, yet you have kept my word and have not denied my name.

9   I will make those who are the synagogue of Satan, who claim to be Jews though they are not, but are liars- I will make them come and fall down at your feet and acknowledge that I have loved you.

10   Since you have kept my command to endure patiently, I will also keep you from the hour of trial that is going to come on the whole world to test the inhabitants of the earth.

11   I am coming soon. Hold on to what you have, so that no one will take your crown. (Revelation 3:11)

Now in reverse, the two witnesses (Revelation 11:3)

3   And I will appoint my two witnesses, and they will prophesy for 1,260 days, clothed in sackcloth.” (Revelation 11:3)

Mr. Tim LaHaye and Thomas Ice states that in Revelation, we find the seven years divided into two periods of 1260 days, or 42 months, or three-and-one-half years, or “time and times and half a time” (Revelation 11:2-3;12:6,7,14; 13:5).

Every one of those time spans totals up to seven years. The first half, or first 42 months, is the Tribulation, while the last half is called by our Lord “The Great Tribulation.”

The Day of the Lord (1 Thessalonians 5:1-24)

5   Now, brothers and sisters, about times and dates we do not need to write to you,

2   for you know very well that the day of the Lord will come like a thief in the night.

3   While people are saying, “Peace and safety,” destruction will come on them suddenly, as labor pains on a pregnant woman, and they will not escape.

4   But you, brothers and sisters, are not in darkness so that this day should surprise you like a thief.

5   You are all children of the light and children of the day. We do not belong to the night or to the darkness.

6   So then, let us not be like others, who are asleep, but let us be awake and sober.

7   For those who sleep, sleep at night, and those who get drunk, get drunk at night.

8   But since we belong to the day, let us be sober, putting on faith and love as a breastplate, and the hope of salvation as a helmet.

9   For God did not appoint us to suffer wrath but to receive salvation through our Lord Jesus Christ.

10   He died for us so that, whether we are awake or asleep, we may live together with him.

11   Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.

Final Instructions

12   Now we ask you, brothers and sisters, to acknowledge those who work hard among you, who care for you in the Lord and who admonish you.

13   Hold them in the highest regard in love because of their work. Live in peace with each other.

14   And we urge you, brothers and sisters, warn those who are idle and disruptive, encourage the disheartened, help the weak, be patient with everyone.

15   Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always strive to do what is good for each other and for everyone else.

16   Rejoice always,

17   pray continually,

18   give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.

19   Do not quench the Spirit.

20   Do not treat prophecies with contempt

21   but test them all; hold on to what is good,

22   reject every kind of evil.

23   May God himself, the God of peace, sanctify you through and through. May your whole spirit, soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.

24   The one who calls you is faithful, and he will do it.

World of Dance

Dancing away the Depression: Discovering your unique Talents

The creative art of dancing is a beautiful way of self expression and is just one of the many ways we were gifted by the Creator of the Universe with different talents.

In Exodus 31:3, The Lord spoke to Moses saying,

“And I have filled him with the Spirit of God, with skill, ability and knowledge in all kinds of workmanship”

In the same way God has placed amazing talents within each of us, but it is our responsibility to discover them.

The last hundred years have seen dance become an increasingly integral element of popular culture. From ballroom dancing to breakdancing.

Why should you cultivate your talents as a dancer?

Dance is a beautiful way to communicate and gives way to self-expression. It’s also good for the mind, soul and body.

Chapel Church of God Dancers

Chapel Church of God Dancers

Now you know you can’t talk about dancing without mentioning Michael Jackson!

Michael Jackson

Michael Jackson

In 1983 he was asked to perform alongside his brothers for a TV show to celebrate 25 years of Motown and it was in front of one of the largest TV audiences ever for a variety show, Michael Jackson, a man of many talents, unveiled a dance routine in which he appeared to move across the stage without lifting his feet from the floor. Later known as the moonwalk, it became his trademark. Cool!

Moon Walk

Moon Walk

I love dancing, it’s in my blood! It runs through my veins and circulates through my arteries and pumps life, hope and beautiful possibilities of creativity in my life.

As a born Jamaican I am naturally very gifted in this area.

Jamaica is a beautiful country with a rich history and public celebrations are still common occurrences.

Olaudah Equiano, the Ibo ex-slave, wrote in 1789,

“We are almost a nation of dancers, musicians, and poets. Thus, every great event, such as a triumphant return from battle or other causes of public rejoicing, is celebrated in public dances, which are accompanied with songs and music suited to the occasion”.

His statement is still very much true in Jamaica’s culture today.

Jamaican talented Dancers

Talented Jamaican Dancers

Talented Jamaican Dance Couple

Talented Jamaican Dance Couple

Talented Jamaican Dancehall

Jamaican Dancehall

 

 

 

 

I also learnt that there was such a thing called the rave and club culture in Britain and it was quite a phenomenon.

According to my most recent findings, the first raves were in warehouses around the outskirts of Britain’s industrialized towns and cities or at secret open-air venues.

These parties were attracting thousands of dancers in the 1988. The rave was more than a simple dance party, it was seeking to lift the audience into an altered physical and mental state.

The mixture of a sensual location, powerful sound systems, theatrical lightening in addition to the recreational use of the drug ecstasy lead dancers into something approaching a trance-like state.

Unfortunately, many drugs such as ecstasy, LSD, PCP and certain mushrooms are known to cause delusion and hallucinations. These mind-altering substances produce temporary psychotic symptoms, either during intoxication or withdrawal.

As much as I believe dancing is great for depression, I strongly suggest no one add any of the above substances to the experience.

Research states that there are four major triggers of human depression- the loss of a loved one, a stress that can’t be handled, a loss of status, or a feeling of guilt.

When depressed, you are likely to have delusions of unreasonable worthlessness and guilt, delusions of hopelessness and perhaps suicidal tendencies.

Also, sometimes being in an unhealthy relationship can cause depression and other abnormal behaviors.
See my previous article: Smooth Criminal/Love the way you Lie: Traumatic Bonding.

Depression is a serious mental illness and should not be taken lightly and can even be coupled with psychotic features.

For example, a shy eighteen -year-old student from a small town begins his freshman year at a large state university and is increasingly overwhelmed by the workload in his grueling prelaw courses.

Prior to his first set of midterms, he becomes extremely distraught and agitated, develops the delusion that his roommates are plotting to murder him in his sleep, and is fond running naked in the streets to escape them.

Guess what else I found out, childbirth is also another important stressor that can trigger a brief psychotic disorder. It has been estimated that one or two deliveries out of every thousand are complicated by postpartum psychoses.

See my other article “Discover the Yello or “Blues” in You: Royal Labor Pains” where I touched a little on the complications of Postpartum Depression.

Your mental health is just as important as the health of your body and with the latest technology becoming available, hopefully more and more people will be able to afford better health care.

So what is this technology I am referring to you may ask? The Blockchain Technology of course!

Blockchain in Health Care

John Halamka is Chief Information Officer of Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center in Boston, a Harvard University teaching hospital, a position that he has held since 1998. He has also held the position of CIO for Harvard Medical School from 2001 through 2012.

Mr. Halamka recently assumed responsibility as Editor-in-Chief of the new academic journal, Blockchain in Healthcare Today.

However, according to Randy Bean’s interview in the August 2018 issue of the Forbes Magazine, blockchain is ideal for ensuring data integrity where control is decentralized. Mr. Halamka also cited three prominent opportunities:

  1. Medical Records. When a medical record is generated and signed, it can be written to the blockchain, which will provide absolute proof and confidence that a medical record cannot be changed. The integrity of the medical record is ensured. The same concept can be applied to clinical trials. This has impact in legal cases as well where the integrity of the medical record is pivotal.
  2. Consent management. In the current healthcare environment where every state has different privacy and consent regulations, blockchain could be used to record patient consent for purposes of data sharing. Any party seeking to exchange medical data about a patient could check the blockchain for permission to do so.
  3. Micropayments. The idea that patients might be incented is gaining traction. If a patient follows a care plan, keeps their appointments and stays healthy, there might be rewards offered through the blockchain. Similarly, patients might be rewarded for contributing their data to clinical trials and clinical research using the same approach.

Randy Bean

Randy Bean

Randy Bean is an industry thought-leader and author, and CEO of NewVantage Partners, a strategic advisory and management consulting firm which he founded in 2001. He is a contributor to Forbes, Harvard Business Review, MIT Sloan Management Review, and The Wall Street Journal. You can follow him at @RandyBeanNVP.

So let’s get back to my initial health question, “Are you depressed?” Dancing can help!

World of Dance- Talents

World of Dance

 

 

World of Dance

Dancing away the Depression: Discovering your unique Talents

The creative art of dancing is a beautiful way of self expression and is just one of the many ways we were gifted by the Creator.

In Exodus 31:3, The Lord spoke to Moses saying,

“And I have filled him with the Spirit of God, with skill, ability and knowledge in all kinds of workmanship”

In the same way God has placed amazing talents within each of us, but it is our responsibility to discover them.

The last hundred years have seen dance become an increasingly integral element of popular culture. From ballroom dancing to breakdancing.

Dance is a beautiful way to communicate and gives way to self-expression. It’s also good for the mind, soul and body.

Now you know you can’t talk about dancing without mentioning Michael Jackson!

In 1983 he was asked to perform alongside his brothers for a TV show to celebrate 25 years of Motown and it was in front of one of the largest TV audiences ever for a variety show, Michael Jackson unveiled a dance routine in which he appeared to move across the stage without lifting his feet from the floor. Later known as the moonwalk, it became his trademark. Cool!

I love dancing, it’s in my blood! It runs through my veins and circulates through my arteries and pumps life, hope and beautiful possibilities of creativity in my life.

As a born Jamaican I am naturally very gifted in this area.

Jamaica is a beautiful country with a rich history and public celebrations are still common occurrences.

Olaudah Equiano, the Ibo ex-slave, wrote in 1789,

“We are almost a nation of dancers, musicians, and poets. Thus, every great event, such as a triumphant return from battle or other causes of public rejoicing, is celebrated in public dances, which are accompanied with songs and music suited to the occasion”.

His statement is still very much true in Jamaica’s culture today.


I also learnt that there was such a thing called the rave and club culture in Britain and it was quite a phenomenon.

According to my most recent findings, the first raves were in warehouses around the outskirts of Britain’s industrialized towns and cities or at secret open-air venues.

These parties were attracting thousands of dancers in the 1988. The rave was more than a simple dance party, it was seeking to lift the audience into an altered physical and mental state.

The mixture of a sensual location, powerful sound systems, theatrical lightening in addition to the recreational use of the drug ecstasy lead dancers into something approaching a trance-like state.

Unfortunately, many drugs such as ecstasy, LSD, PCP and certain mushrooms are known to cause delusion and hallucinations. These mind-altering substances produce temporary psychotic symptoms, either during intoxication or withdrawal.

As much as I believe dancing is great for depression, I strongly suggest no one add any of the above substances to the experience.

Research states that there are four major triggers of human depression- the loss of a loved one, a stress hat can’t be handled, a loss of status, or a feeling of guilt.

When depressed, you are likely to have delusions of unreasonable worthlessness and guilt, delusions of hopelessness and perhaps suicidal tendencies.

Also, sometimes being in an unhealthy relationship can cause depression and other abnormal behaviors.

See my previous article: Smooth Criminal/Love the way you Lie: Traumatic Bonding.

Depression is a serious mental illness and should not be taken lightly and can even be coupled with psychotic features.

For example, a shy eighteen -year-old student from a small town begins his freshman year at a large state university and is increasingly overwhelmed by the workload in his grueling prelaw courses.

Prior to his first set of midterms, he becomes extremely distraught and agitated, develops the delusion that his roommates are plotting to murder him in his sleep, and is fond running naked in the streets to escape them.

Guess what else I found out, childbirth is also another important stressor that can trigger a brief psychotic disorder. It has been estimated that one or two deliveries out of every thousand are complicated by postpartum psychoses.

See my other article “Discover the Yello or “Blues” in You: Royal Labor Pains” where I touched a little on the complications of Postpartum Depression.

Your mental health is just as important as the health of your body and with the latest technology becoming available, hopefully more and more people will be able to afford better health care.

So what is this technology I am referring to you may ask? The Blockchain Technology of course!

Blockchain in Health Care

John Halamka is Chief Information Officer of Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center in Boston, a Harvard University teaching hospital, a position that he has held since 1998. He has also held the position of CIO for Harvard Medical School from 2001 through 2012.

Mr. Halamka recently assumed responsibility as Editor-in-Chief of the new academic journal, Blockchain in Healthcare Today.

However, according to Randy Bean’s interview in the August 2018 issue of the Forbes Magazine, blockchain is ideal for ensuring data integrity where control is decentralized. Mr. Halamka also cited three prominent opportunities:

  1. Medical Records. When a medical record is generated and signed, it can be written to the blockchain, which will provide absolute proof and confidence that a medical record cannot be changed. The integrity of the medical record is ensured. The same concept can be applied to clinical trials. This has impact in legal cases as well where the integrity of the medical record is pivotal.
  2. Consent management. In the current healthcare environment where every state has different privacy and consent regulations, blockchain could be used to record patient consent for purposes of data sharing. Any party seeking to exchange medical data about a patient could check the blockchain for permission to do so.
  3. Micropayments. The idea that patients might be incented is gaining traction. If a patient follows a care plan, keeps their appointments and stays healthy, there might be rewards offered through the blockchain. Similarly, patients might be rewarded for contributing their data to clinical trials and clinical research using the same approach.

Randy Bean

Randy Bean

Randy Bean is an industry thought-leader and author, and CEO of NewVantage Partners, a strategic advisory and management consulting firm which he founded in 2001. He is a contributor to Forbes, Harvard Business Review, MIT Sloan Management Review, and The Wall Street Journal. You can follow him at @RandyBeanNVP.

So let’s get back to my initial health question, “Are you depressed?” Dancing can help!

World of Dance

World of Dance

 

Blessings All Around.

 

Being a freshman is difficult.

Being an international freshman is even more so.

All the typical problems you face during your first year in college seem amplified when you’re away from home for the first time, knowing that it is way more than a drive away.

However, my difficulty with the transition from high school to college is more than home-sickness – there’s a huge cultural shock. Being of Afro-Caribbean decent, for the first time I found myself as the minority, a realization that brought with it feelings of self-consciousness and sudden awareness of my surroundings,

Feelings that were all so foreign to me.

Due to this, I’ve found it rather easy to feel isolated. Sure, I may have friends, but there aren’t many people who can truly relate to my transitional experiences – to no fault of their own – which can make it easy to think that no one really cares.

But they do.

The beauty of college, to me, is the fact that people can swoop in and inspire you when you don’t even realize you need a word of encouragement; along this journey I’ve found that small gestures really do go a long way.

So, a word of advice: before you allow yourself to become overwhelmed, or succumb to feelings of loneliness,

Just remember that there are always blessings all around.

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