Nurse Exposes the Most Cited Regrets at the End of Life

Top Five Regrets of the Dying

According to Bronnie Ware, a former palliative care nurse who ended up writing a book, “The Top Five Regrets of the Dying,” based on her conversations with the dying, the biggest, most commonly cited regrets at the end of life are — beginning with the most common regret of all:4

  1. Not having the courage to live a life true to oneself but rather doing what was expected
  2. Working too much, thereby missing children’s youth and their partner’s companionship
  3. Not having the courage to express one’s feelings
  4. Not staying in touch with friends
  5. Taking life too seriously and allowing worries to diminish happiness

If we turned this blog into a poll I would have to plead:

#2 – #4 – GUILTY

#5 – half GUILTY

4 thoughts on “Nurse Exposes the Most Cited Regrets at the End of Life”

  1. I think we’d all be guilty of these things at some point or other in life. Life’s a test. It’s not fair. It’s designed to see what we learn and if we pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and make things right…as best we can.

  2. It took me some while to get over #2.
    I talked to my sons about it years ago.
    I use to ask them what they didn’t like about their childhood. They told me they wished I didn’t work so much. And I understood because my mother was a stay at home mom for the most part. She worked some weekends as we got older. She is a nurse.

    So I told them……to be able to give their kids (when they have them) what they didn’t get …that they needed to get a great education to get a wonderful career. So that when they have kids their mother would be able to stay home with the kids.
    Today…many mothers have to work to make ends meet.

    But they appreciated every minute I was home I spent all my time with them. I planned everything around them.
    So after talking with my sons about it……that guilt lifted once they understood. My sons truly were and are my happiness.

    Now….as for #1.
    THAT I am working on now. It is very hard to do things for oneself when I am so use to helping everyone else. It does make me happy to be able to do things for others. But now that my sons are grown and I am retired….life can be all about me. I always wanted to retire early…..and I am thankful I was able to. So I have a whole life ahead of me. Time to learn to be a little selfish 😉

    So I can say at the moment I am regret free.

  3. # 1 and #5 — much too long of a story to go into here…. not so much regret, but feeling guilty for time wasted. Wishing I had made better choices in all areas of my life. When my mother was dying of cancer, she told me, “No regrets.” No regrets about the past and what was to come. ~

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