For me love is the most important thing. I couldn’t be in a relationship for companionship or out of fear of being lonely. I cannot make the best of it or make do. It’s seems disrespectful to myself.
I give all of me and expect nothing less in return. Anything else just isn’t for me. So if you lie and deceive, don’t commit to being emotionally intimate, I am not intrested.
I know everyone is different. We all have different needs, and these are mine. Honesty, openness, integrity and loving kindness.
My spouse faked these qualities and it took me years to realise.
I saw evidence of the lack of these qualities, but was manipulated into believing that what I saw was incorrect. I trusted him and i have learned from my mistakes. I love myself more now to not accept less than I’m willing to give.