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“The Six Conversations” by Heather Holleman is a great read for anyone wanting to improve their conversational skills and relationships. Indeed, in a day and age of selfies, self-centeredness, and narcissism, the author hits the nail on the head for the solution: getting outside ourselves and show a sincere interest in other people for who they are instead of what you can use them for.

Around 180 pages, the book addresses many topics, including:

– 4 mindsets needed for strong connections.

– Most people stay self-absorbed and lack strong connections (yep!).

– Various ways God takes interest in us and wants us to share our lives with Him.

– Suggestions for practicing good conversational skills (hint: let others talk about themselves and listen to them!).

– Revealing something personal about yourself makes yourself more likeable by others.

– 10 common barriers to effective communication.

– Asking others personal questions can be risky but also rewarding.

What I like about this book:

– Easy to read and understand.

– Covers a wide variety of relevant topics on improving relationships and conversation.

– Good spiritual and practical insights.

– Smooth transition from chapter to chapter (not a choppy read).

– Very helpful appendix of 100 questions to ask to use in conversation.

The principles mentioned in the book, reinforce what I’ve learned years ago – it’s far easier to get people to talk about themselves than to try to get them interested in you (in other words, start with others and not yourself!). Also, if the other person asks some questions about you, that’s a good clue that they are interested in you and has the potential for a good friendship (we should never become too comfortable and complacent that we never try to make new friendships, whatever our season of life).

Very good read, will be read again, and recommended. I was given a review copy by Moody Publishers in exchange for a fair review and appreciate the opportunity.