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  • We don’t meet people by accident.  They are meant to cross our path for a reason.

    1.1 Robert: Pushing Back the Wind (from “The Merging”)

    When I was a teenager, my dad, a heavy smoker, had several heart att […]

  • Robert Roe posted an update in the group Group logo of All About LoveAll About Love 1 year, 7 months ago

    I am going to change the way I am posting the novel “The Merging”. I am going to post a single chapter at a time with a new numbering of the chapters. I notice that comments made under activities can not be edited after they are submitted. Stories can be edited, but the latest stories show up at the bottom of the stories section, not the top?…[Read more]

  • Aguila got the ball rolling in this direction. Absolutely appreciate how they showcase talent from around the world.

  • I am learning to use phone to make and entry and then see if I can come back and edit post. Basics.

  • Robert Roe posted an update 1 year, 7 months ago

    Tuesday night. Wow, this place reminds me of a job I had in a morgue while I was in college. I spent the night there, sleeping with the bodies, so no one could come in and cause mischief. I got a few crank phone calls, but nothing ever happened except for occasional fear in my head when I thought I heard something. But, best I could tell…[Read more]

    • I told you it was quiet.

      • that you did Jules. Is it this quiet in your world outside of this quiet inner world?

        • I would have to say yes. . .very quiet. Mainly due to isolation during this awful pandemic, but every now and then I reach for the amplifier and turn the knob up just to let others know I am still alive.

  • Robert Roe posted an update in the group Group logo of Writer’s LoungeWriter’s Lounge 1 year, 7 months ago

    Tuesday morning. Trying to figure out the day’s priorities. What’s important, what I should do, what I want to do, and in general, what matters. What left undone affects my future the most; what can I do now that will improve my future or even the world.

    How do I avoid just doing what I always do, falling into a rut? I can employ my usual str…[Read more]

  • Looking forward to Barbeque tomorrow. Very liberal group. Four committed couples coming. All well educated, liberal, and very kind and generous people. None of them would consider it inappropriate to ask […]

  • This book is in the serious editing and rewriting phase… I am not sure how to best present it on this site so I am going to try several ways simultaneously and see which way results in more […]

    • You mentioned writing a novel, but is this in actual fact an autobiography or just loosely based on fact?

      • It is a fictionalized account of what happened …. much of it occurs here on thoughts.com ten to twelve years ago … names have been changed to protect the guilty …

      • I am not sure it is worth continuing if there is no one here to read it … its as quiet as a morgue here.

        • When I write stories and post them in here, if I get just one reader then it makes it all worth while. And a note on commenting: because no one has left a comment on your story is not evidence that no one is reading it.

          • thank you Jules … is there a notice when I add a chapter to the story? Benventure said much the same as you just said.

            • Thoughts has no notification system in place to tell members of new content as such. All new content can be seen in the ‘Activity’ section – this will include, blogs, updates, group entries, etc, and comments members have left on the aforementioned content. And of course, when submitting a blog post, it will automatically appear on the main blog page.

              Hope this clarifies things for you.

              • I added chapters to the story this afternoon and I notice that it did not show up in the activity log …

                • I think you added the chapters to an existing post, not a new post. This will not be updated in the Activity section simply because it is an ‘EDIT’ of an already existing post. In order for new chapters to appear my advice would be to post them as ‘new’ posts – not additions. So in your case when you update the story – New post/Title/Chapter number.

                  You can post more than one chapter in the same post, but do it there and then rather than wait a few days, if you do then the same problem will present itself – it will not show up in Activity.

    • there are bodies and cadavers and hopes and and dreams alike. There are we here, the treetop shadows, the winds and whispers that hope you continue, that live for story. Don’t fall prey to the age of celebrity, there are plenty here, some a little more verbose than others

    • Benventure, wow, the way you write is very interesting … you should be writing a novel, I love your style. I also appreciate the encouragement. I will edit and post the next chapter today (or I will try). Most of the book is written, but I am using the posting here to clean it up …

      When you have a chance, tell me about your name “Benventure” … is there a story involved?

  • I thought I would start a diary to get a handle on what this site is like.

    I work from home these days via Zoom. I am the lead process engineer helping to build a magnesium pilot plant in Vancouver. I hope […]

    • We need more enthusiastic writers in here, so if you’re prepared to write a serialised story then please do so. Back in the day Thoughts had a very vibrant community of writers from all walks of life who took part in writing challenges each week. They were good times and I will always remember them with fondness. Alas, some have died, and some have disappeared into cyber-space and I always wonder what they are all up to these days?

    • I had a friend I befriended on this very site years ago who was half Scottish/English living in France …I think he was in his early 70’s? WELL….he couldn’t get women off his mind. He absolutely LOVED women. He has since passed…..but even as he was slowly dying his last years….he couldn’t get women off his mind. So you see….even some grown up men think of women around the clock.

      I don’t think I could imagine a poly relationship or I should say I don’t really want to put much thought into it. But I am a firm believer in what ever floats your boat ☺️

      Very interesting field of work you are in.

    • Monica, fear often stops us from changing the status quo even if the change would result in a richer and fuller life. We avoid getting into situations that make us uncomfortable or trigger learned and painful responses. So, poly does all of that to most people, me included. But, my few poly experiences, where my wife was involved with another man, has changed me more than any other experience in my life. Facing my demons, although not easy for my wife to be caught in has made me a kinder, gentler person, more at peace with life than ever.

      I am 73 and I also really love women. I hike with a 40 year old woman who I really adore. (Nothing like an old fool.) I am able to come home and tell my wife all the feelings I am having and she sympathizes, coaches, and listens without any fear. Our rules are to tell each other what is important; these are usually more focused on feelings than actions. For example, with a previous woman, when I told my wife that I kissed S, it was no surprise to her because I had already told her that I had loved S for years.

      My wife and I because we share what is important, what is in our hearts, and are really our true selves with each other have an incredible relationship. Not perfect, but very good.

      What scares you about poly? Tell me something “important to you”, please.

      Robert

      • There is nothing to “fear” over a poly relationship. It’s a just a relationship(s)
        If anyone “fears” it….maybe it’s not for them.

        I did have a tiny bit more to add but will later.

        • Monica, most people have fear that comes out as jealousy, anger, blame, or some other cover emotion. If you don’t have fears then I suspect you do not know yourself well. You can’t even have courage without fear since courage is moving forward even in the face of fear. And fears are not necessarily logical.
          Here is a logical fear … my lady works in education. A poly relationship could easily be met with so much disapproval to impact her effectiveness in her job or even result in dismissal. Most of the world is not okay with poly and such relationships are still illegal in most states. I know a couple pretty much pushed out of their neighborhood over poly .. With older people acceptance is far from a given. With people raised in traditional relationships jealousy is very common in poly and can lead to a lot of unhappy results that one might fear.

          • To me…..there is a BIG difference in “moving forward in the face of fear” and “Fear” in a “type” of relationship.

            A romantic relationship is a CHOICE in my book. Do I choose to walk down this path…..or not? What are the possible outcomes? Do I understand everything that could possibly happen? Could someone get hurt? Yes. Will someone get hurt? maybe not. If I understand all of the possible outcomes….. there is nothing to fear.
            Know the outcomes and dive in or get out.

            The happiness that you and your wife have is all that really matters in the end. Not what so and so thinks. You both knew it is a lifestyle choice that you couldn’t share with EVERYONE and you both still walked down that path. It is a lifestyle that may not be completely accepted in this lifetime…..and yet those relationships still go on.
            We humans operate at a Neanderthals pace someone said 😉

            I just learned early on that I have a choice to focus on the the nay sayers….or focus on the beautiful family & friends who “get it”. Nay sayers are on a totally different journey.

            We all have different fears. I just don’t see any fear in love & romance 💜

    • Well I would say that it depends on the group partaking in the relationship. Do they all think alike. Do they all have the same mind on life and love. I find that poly relationships are more old fashion than the typical. Their spiritual belief may have a part to play with them being successful on that path.
      I hate modernism. It ruins these ideas of wise adults

    • Well, I am here to read some of what makes you tick. 🙂 First of all, I have the same feelings you have, just not at the same object. As a gay male, my interest is directed toward men, not women but other than that, it is a large part of my thought process.

      However, poly relationships are something that I guess you could say I am afraid of. Well, not so much afraid of in the abstract but when it comes to knowing that a lover of mine might be having sex with someone else, I am a jealous person. I have only had one real relationship and he later confessed that we broke up because he couldn’t be faithful. It was a big deal to me.

      Of course, the confession came (and came publically) after he had literally denied it for years. Interestingly enough, I had been angry about the issue for a long time and his confession took that pain and anger away.

      Reading what you have said above, I see you suggesting that oftentimes dislike for poly is really about fear?!! Well, yes, there is a fear. The fear is that I am no longer enough….am less desirable etc. I was taught growing up that I was “less than” in subtle and not so subtle ways, so seeing the person I care about with someone else, is very hurtful to me…or was that time.

      Interestingly enough, despite the anger and pain that was involved, I did continue to care for him and share a house with him until he died 15 years ago of HIV. After the initial 2 years where we were intimately involved, the relationship was really not the same….the romantic part was never acted on again.

    • What thing that is absolutely required to give a poly relationship any chance is honesty. Trust has to be there and maintained with lots of communications. And yes, I have gone down the fear path also even when my lady was being very honest with me. I regret that now, because my fear/jealously did some damage to our relationship that has taken a very long time to repair; I am not sure it will ever be back to 100% (but it still very good). I have long since got over the jealousy and wish my lady would give me another chance … even if she is the one enjoying the freedom. But, once burnt, she does not trust me to be “not jealous.”

      Oh well, maybe next lifetime I will get it right.

  • Prologue

    Two people are brought together as they both struggle with tragedy in their lives.  The man is coping with the slow death of his wife as cancer takes a part of her each month.  Losing his job as c […]

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