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Monica replied 1 day, 20 hours ago

I think I am very fortunate to have only experienced this once from the medical/law field.
My mother is a retired nurse and as we grew up we got to know the many different Drs she worked with. We went to parties at these Drs houses with my mother. All the kids swam while the adults mingled and danced. She became friends with all these Drs. So my mother always knew how a Dr should treat their patients and she knew proper protocol and would easily report anything out of sorts. And she always told us…if we are not comfortable with a Dr….request a new one.
My sons Pediatrician saw all of them from the day they were born until they were grown teenagers. She also was my moms friend who became my friend after she retired. She is such an exceptional human being.
My Dr. who did my hysterectomy was also an old friend of my mothers.
Funny Story. I was a young teenager when I first met him at one of these house parties. HE WAS GORGEOUS. Such a beautiful man….and he IS an ob-gyn. Anyhow…..years later I become pregnant at 20 and they referred to him. WHAT? NO WAY? I can’t see him…..he is just too good looking. So I asked for a female ob-gyn and they sent me to a cold …rushed female who didn’t even look me in my eyes on my fist visit. My mom also knew her but she couldn’t understand why this Dr was so cold towards me. So I requested another ob-gyn and was sent to a wonderful older gentleman who delivered my first 2 sons. (my mother didnt know this guy)
Anyhow….about the handsome first Dr. Years later I am having female problems and my Chiropractor recommends her female friend who is a top GYN in San Diego and actually had a waiting list to get in to see her. But I was able to get in and my first appointment was with her assistant. After all test and ultra sounds are done my second visit was with the famed GYN (I felt so lucky) She said she would like to refer me to another top ob-gyn who was an expert in the field and who does robotic surgery…..and she told me his name and it was my moms handsome friend. I guess he was this Drs teacher and mentor. Now being 3o years since I first met him….I was no longer nervous. He is still handsome…but a little shorter …a little older…and less intimidating.
So I have a few Drs in my circle….and my cousin was actually nominated for Surgeon General YEARS ago. So I don’t really need to read about what’s best regarding this virus…..I just make a call to my friends and my family. I don’t need no explanations from them…I go with their flow.

I know my story is not a common one….so I do feel very fortunate.
And I feel for anyone who has a horrid experiences with any Dr.
They only get away with it because not many people follow through with complaints.
AND….some places won’t replace them because it isn’t in the budget.

As for Lawyers……well…..I actually have been on and off dating one for the last few years. I would say we are more friends and NOTHNG will come from this. Because he is a ….I almost hate to say this….but he is a republican. hahaha.
Long story for another day. I can’t type 2 stories in one log in.
But I have had a lawyer on call since my first car accident. He was my Chiropractors friend and since has become my friend.

I have to say….follow any recommendations you can. Your friends and family would not steer you wrong.

And you are right….CALL THEM OUT. Some just have this attitude that we are so lucky that they are seeing us.
Many people never follow through with complaints so these Drs feel they can get away with their awful attitudes.

Believe it or not…I had more to say but I keep hitting the wrong keys.
I think that’s my hint to…..sign off.
- leftthoughts replied 1 day, 20 hours ago
  
  Interesting that you had a cold, rushed female doctor experience. One of the reasons that I don’t want, personally, to go to a woman doctor, really is personal…but there is another reason having to do with a female doctor my mother had at the end of her life. She was the one that talked down to her.
  
  I decided then and there that the expectation that exists in some circles that a woman doctor would be more patient, and nurturing is not always true. Interesting, however, there was another intern, who was female that agreed with me that my mother WAS in fact responsive if you approached her the right way.
  - Monica replied 19 hours, 35 minutes ago
    
    You had me looking back at this experience….and realized there was another female Dr who was also this way. My Dr had just moved on to another organization and they were bringing in a new female Dr who was a friend of my Cousins. They had both went through medical school together. So it was nice meeting her but she also was very rushed and kinda cold as well. I only saw her a few times before she left . AND….the GYN I mentioned above that is top in San Diego and recommended by my Chiropractor….she was not a soft women. But I don’t think I noticed because being in the field I was in I had to be a bit cold and hard. But my field had been a mans world up to that point. There was a time and a place for it….and a time and a place to be compassionate and caring. What is the excuse for these female Drs? The Dr I have had for the last few years is female….and she is so kind and fun and we sit and talk and talk when I see her. I always seem to make friends with my Drs. and Dentist…and Lawyer 😉
    
    I think it is just the luck of the draw.
    
    The best Dr I ever had was a female who was actually psychic. She just had to touch you and she knew what was wrong. She pushed natural medications but also had to write prescriptions because it was her job. But she would write on a separate paper natural remedies. She became a good friend of our family. She left the organization because it got too political for her.
    
    I couldn’t imagine having to sit through what you did with your mother. I can be too pushy sometimes and though some may see me as rude in those moments …..you have to be when no one is listening. I will be nice and polite about it a few times. But when that doesn’t work I raise it up a notch. I like to give people the opportunity to fix their situations. And if being a bit more louder still doesn’t work…..I contact every top dog I can …have all of my documentation ready. No one wants to reach that point….but when it comes to the well being of someone….a human life….scream from the top of your lungs. Everyone is accountable to someone. Thats key to remember.
    - leftthoughts replied 16 hours, 58 minutes ago
      
      Oh, I totally think it is the luck of the drag. I also believe that coldness is very often a protective measure on the part of anybody, including a doctor, who is trying to maintain some degree of objectivity so that they can handle having cases that in some cases end in death without losing it.
      
      It is just frustrating to be on the other side of that. 🙂

Monica replied 1 day, 20 hours ago

Sounds like I would like this book. Many of us people from different cultures know this story very well. We live in 2 worlds. You WANT to. There are times you just want to stop one of them. And at times you get upset about it…..but the beauty of getting to experience our culture…it’s history….is something you cherish.

I’ll see if they have it on Audiobooks. I listen to books when I am painting/ sewing/ planting.
- leftthoughts replied 1 day, 19 hours ago
  
  I think you might actually enjoy it. It actually has 3 generations in it, and like a lot of books written today it goes between two of them with a chapter from each. (2 major generations but a third is told about).
  - Monica replied 20 hours, 4 minutes ago
    
    They did have it on Audible and I downloaded it. Along with a few others. But I have around 5 I still have not listened to. So I am behind not only in my actual reading of books…but of listening to books too.
    I am going to tell my sister about it ….she loves stories like this. She is the one working in Afghanistan now.
    - leftthoughts replied 16 hours, 56 minutes ago
      
      Wow, sounds like I helped get a trend going of reading/listening to this book. Hope you enjoy. I have almost finished it. Very interesting indeed.

Monica replied 1 day, 20 hours ago

I can’t say I remember her. I only watched one video ….I was disrupted a few times and could not focus. I will watch them later….cause there is something familiar with her.
- leftthoughts replied 1 day, 20 hours ago
  
  whatever you have time for…let me know if you have anything to add. By the way, if you watched Netflex, there was a show about a comedian that I think had a character that was supposed to be Moms in the group. I think The Amazing Mrs Musial (or something like that) and it was when she showed up in Harlem. One of the other comedians was a rendition of Moms. (it wasn’t actually her of course because the real Moms died in 1975).
  - Monica replied 19 hours, 50 minutes ago
    
    The Marvelous Miss Maisel?
    THAT show is on my long list of shows I want to watch. But I am so behind on watching shows that look good and recommendations from friends and family that I had to accept that I may never get to all of them.
    But if they won awards…like Miss Maisel did…they float to the top of the list.
    - leftthoughts replied 16 hours, 53 minutes ago
      
      Ok, well, look out for an episode where she appears in Harlem. I forget the name or the venue, but I believe I remember that it is a famous all-black (normally) venue. I also don’t remember which season it is.
      
      But there you get to see Moms Mabley’s character.

Monica replied 4 days, 17 hours ago

LOVE these. So beautiful.
We use to have a poster on here years ago who recently passed who learned to play bagpipes when he was young. He lived in Canada where they have a large population of Scots. Only person I know who played them.
Thank you for sharing these. Now I can’t stop humming Amazing Grace.
- leftthoughts replied 4 days, 7 hours ago
  
  Yeah, that’s a very “catchy” song. Tends to stay in your head once you hear it. 🙂

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