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she sounds straight. she’s just happy about feeling loved by someone after her bad breakup. after a bad breakup you feel like you can’t be loved, and this girl is helping her get that feeling back. and you have a good mindset, as long as your child is happy and treated right, that really is all that matters. but some advice from me would be to let that girl sleepover at your house. three reasons for that, 1: your daughter won’t resent you for not allowing her to sleepover. 2: your daughter won’t have to go over to the other girl’s house all the time or do things secretly from you. and 3: you’ll get to know this girl.

my advice would be explain to him that you want to try it. that it’s a personal thing you have to figure out for yourself. to be happy. that you don’t want to spend your whole life wondering about it. it’s best you try it, find out if you like it,and go from there. tell your boyfriend that you’d appreciate his support, or at least, his tolerance of it.

dude, EXACT same situation for me, except for the gay guy. only, i’m from the other side of the spectrum. two years ago, when i first figured out that i was into girls… i told my best friend. she freaked out saying that she was raised to believe that being gay was wrong, that it was horrid, that it’s a mistake. i left. awhile later, she told me she wanted to hang out so i went over to her place and i slept over. while we were going to sleep that night ( we were sleeping together) she was facing away from me and she whispered that she liked me and she explained how she was wrong and that if her parents told her it was wrong, why did the idea sound so right to her. so, (i’ll leave out exactly what happened :P ) we basically were in a relationship. but i refused to come out of the closet. she was upset that i wouldn’t tell anyone. and when she told a couple of her closest friends i got angry with her because one of them told someone else and rumors were starting. but more than that, i refused to let her call me her girlfriend. she wanted to, but i wouldn’t let her. so, sounds kinda like what’s going on with your relationship. so i’ll tell you what it’s probably like for her. and what you should do. she’s probably thinking what i’d been thinking. that she thinks of it as a sort of ‘guilty pleasure’ that it’s great and she loves it but she’s afraid of what other people will think. she does like you sweetie, but she’s worried about coming out. because just like me, she thinks that coming out to everyone means making being gay real for her. my advice for you is to put up with her closetedness, don’t let her pull you back in or anything, but don’t get angry with her about it, don’t force her to come out. act and nice and loving and great as you can, eventually she’ll realize that she doesn’t want to hide the reason for her happiness. she’ll become so happy and content with herself that she won’t worry as much about what everyone else thinks.